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A Conversation with Dr. Richard Hagberg, the Silicon Valley "CEO Whisperer"

July 6, 2025

Reprint from Thought Economics, A Journey of Intellectual Capital

In this interview I speak to Rich Hagberg, Ph.D ., often referred to as “Silicon Valley’s CEO Whisperer.” Richard is a trained psychologist who has spent the last 40 years of his career as an executive management coach for over 6,000 executives. Since 2009 he has worked with companies like Tinder, Twitter, Dropbox, MixPanel, Zendesk, Quora, Asana, Pinterest, Salesforce, Munchery, Reddit, Gusto, Cruise, Tinder, Optimizely, Instacart, Patreon, Nerdwallet, and Super Evil Megacorp (it’s a gaming company). He is the co-author of Founders Keepers, Why Founders are Built to Fail & What it Takes to Succeed .

Q: What do you mean, when you say all founders are built to fail?

[Richard Hagberg]: I think that by saying founders are built to get the rocket off the ground, what we’re really acknowledging is that many of them never get it into orbit. Fewer still get it to the moon, and almost none make it to Mars. The problem is execution. Founders are idea people — driven, persistent, individualistic loners and contrarians. It’s hard for them to adapt because they have strong views. It’s hard for them to work through others because they’re independent and used to getting their way. So they don’t delegate and they over-control. They see structure and systems as bureaucracy. They often lack self-awareness — of how they impact others, what they’re good at, and what they’re not. And a lot of them just can’t handle the stress. I mean, people ask me, “Should I do a startup?” And I say, “Well, how important is work-life balance to you?” And if they say anything other than “It’s not important,” I say, “You shouldn’t do it.” Because it’s a killing field. So basically, let me summarise that by saying: the skills that get them to one point won’t carry them the rest of the way. We talk about the ticking time bomb. The ticking time bomb is these very characteristics — when you’re trying to scale, and things are getting more complex, and you have to work through other people — they blow up.

Q: Why do we still believe in the genius jerk archetype?

[Richard Hagberg]: I was just writing something on this earlier in the week. I was looking at examples like Steve Jobs — before he got fired, he was a genius jerk. He got fired, started NeXT Computer, and it didn’t take off. Then he got involved with Pixar, and apparently one of the Pixar co-founders helped him understand the importance of empathy. So when he came back to Apple, he was more willing to adapt, to work through others — with people like Jony Ive, Tim Cook, and others. He was never a choir boy or a saint. The same thing applied to Gates. In the early days of Microsoft, Gates was a terror. But after around 2000, he mellowed a lot. Even Bezos — I mean, around the time that book came out trashing Amazon’s culture, Covid was hitting, his people were under incredible stress, and he was getting all kinds of feedback. So there are these transformational moments that often change people. But look, there are a variety of reasons why founders get misled. Successful, abusive, aggressive people are highly visible — we think of Elon Musk as a good example — and we dramatize these figures. We looked at 122 founders and compared them from the perspective of multiple invested capital, and the most successful ones didn’t fall into that category. They weren’t choirboys, but they didn’t fall into the same patterns either.

Q: How can we encourage founders to be more self aware?

[Richard Hagberg]: … you’ve got to create a psychologically safe environment where people on your team feel able to give you feedback. If they feel intimidated, they’re not going to tell the emperor — or empress — that they have no clothes. So that’s the first thing. The second is, it’s helpful to get objective heat back. These people listen to data. When I came to Silicon Valley, 360s had just started, and I used to give talks about how important a tool it was — because the engineers I was coaching listened to data. Whether it’s 360 feedback, an objective engagement survey, or an employee survey, it helps them understand their impact and what’s really going on in the organisation. Having good coaches and mentors who will tell truth to power — that’s the business I’m in. I’m in the business of telling truth to power. And there are two things. One is that unless you learn and grow continuously, you’re probably going to end up as one of the 90% who don’t make it. The second is — and I mean, I’m a serial entrepreneur as well as a psychologist — thank God I learned to meditate when I was 19. That gives me a bit of distance from my behaviour. It lets me observe things with more clarity. And because startups are so stressful — such a killing field — it undermines decision quality and brings out bad behaviour. My Master’s thesis back in the ’70s was on meditation; my doctoral thesis was on stress and its impact on people. There’s been plenty of research since then that’s validated it, and I see it all the time. When these people are under stress, they make bad decisions. They get reactive. One of the key findings in our conclusions is that the unsuccessful founders were more reactive. They weren’t measured. They weren’t deliberate. They didn’t make decisions based on facts — their emotions carried them away.

I ’ve got to tell you a story. When I went back to graduate school, one of my mentors called me into his office and said, “Rich, there’s one little piece of advice I’d like to give you.” And I thought, oh boy, here it comes. Then he said, “Rich, sometimes you treat a wisp of intuition as though it were a four-lane highway.” It’s not that you shouldn’t trust intuition — it’s that you need to validate it. And to validate it, you have to run a decision-making process that’s grounded in facts, built around having multiple alternatives, and involves actively seeking those alternatives from other people. And then — because everyone is biased, and the research on cognitive bias is very compelling — you have to run a disciplined process to ensure the facts and alternatives actually surface.

Q: What about the effectiveness of the boards around these founders?

[Richard Hagberg]: I’ve talked to board members at companies where the leader was pushed out for unethical behaviour or ended up indicted. It often comes down to the fact that they waited too long — guided by greed — to address dysfunctional behaviour that could sink the company later. That’s the first thing. The second is that many boards today, especially startup boards, are dominated by investors who don’t have operating experience. So they try to hold people accountable, but only for the numbers — not for their behaviour, and not for their actions as leaders. Another thing I see is that because the board is more challenging than supportive, it ends up encouraging founders to exaggerate, to bend the truth, and to feel unsafe being honest about the problems — which means the board can’t actually help. And a lot of investors aren’t able to help anyway — they can’t give the kind of strategic support that’s really needed. Founders want help with strategy, but they want that help from people who’ve been there and done it — people with real operating experience.

Q: What is the role of the coach, or mentor, in the founders’ journey?

[Richard Hagberg]: In my mind, there’s a difference between being a coach and being a mentor. I’m a psychologist, but I’ve also been a founder, and I’ve been studying leadership since 1986. So at times, I’m using the psychologist’s lens to peel the onion — to understand what’s going on inside and where they’re blocked. At other times, it’s clear that a lot of them lack best-practice experience. They’ve never had a boss, they’ve never been a boss, and they don’t know how accountability works. They have no models, no frameworks. That’s where mentors can help — with frameworks. But if the mentor is only drawing on their own experience scaling their company, it might not translate. It could be a totally different kind of company with a completely different business model. Those mentors are great at offering advice on what worked for them — but they’re not always as helpful in answering questions like: what do we know about how to make good decisions, or how to build effective teams?

Q: How do founders avoid burnout?

[Richard Hagberg]: I think you have to make your own physical and mental health a real priority if you’re going to make it through. When you take a step back and look at what we learned in the book, it’s essentially survival of the fittest. And fitness means not resorting to things like alcohol and drugs to cope with stress — which so many people do — and making sure you get enough exercise and enough sleep. People are proud of how many hours they work — it’s almost like a badge. And it’s crazy, because I can see how it undermines both their judgement and their health. I’ve probably been burnt out three times over the years and had to do a reset. And each time, I’ve had to ask: what am I doing that’s pushing me over the edge here? Where can I set boundaries? And if you’re too demanding — if you only focus on results, put constant pressure on people, and make it unsafe for them to push back — you’ll burn out your team. I have a client right now who’s been pushing hard to hit financial goals, and multiple members of the senior management team have thrown in the towel. They’ve said, “That’s it, I can’t deal with this, it’s destroying me.” What’s interesting — and this is something we haven’t talked about — is that the successful founders don’t necessarily have high emotional intelligence, but they have better emotional intelligence than the unsuccessful ones. And that allows them to read people, to check in on their wellbeing, to ask what’s getting in the way of performance. The unsuccessful ones have no empathy — they just drive people. They treat relationships as transactions. For them, it’s all about tasks, not about people. But it’s not a machine.

Q: Do you see a relationship between neurodiversity and the most successful founders you have worked with?

[Richard Hagberg]: I’m not an expert on the spectrum — but I suspect that people who get caught up in their internal world of ideas, and aren’t aware of people, emotion, team dynamics, and all that, who are just purely idea people — it really gets in the way. That said, I know one very successful founder who’s clearly Asperger’s, and he’s made a real effort to learn how to be a leader. It doesn’t come naturally to him — it’s not instinctive — but he works at it. People often ask, in a whisper, “Do people really change?” And I say, look, people may not change their fundamental personality, but they can change their behaviour. That said, how much they can change is limited. And when people ask how much, I say, well, on a 10-point scale, if you really work at it, you can probably move about 3 points. So if a job requires you to be at an 8, and you’re a 4, it’s going to be tough. And that’s where execution becomes a problem for many founders. Because founders are creative, idea-driven people. The insights they get, their willingness to challenge tradition, and their awareness of the market — that’s what fuels them early on. They’re divergent thinkers. They generate possibilities. But at a certain stage — when the company enters the traction or fast-growth phase — you need to bring focus to the organisation. And they get distracted by shiny objects. Any new idea just sweeps them away.

Q: What is the relationship of wealth to the journey of your founders?

[Richard Hagberg]: it’s something I tell my clients — especially when I’m assessing whether I’ll work with someone. I ask, “What’s your goal? What’s your vision?” And if they say, “I want to grow a million-dollar company,” or, “I want to do an IPO,” I say, “No, but what’s your vision?” I know a venture capitalist who says when someone gives that kind of answer, it’s an immediate knockout. My belief isn’t that greed doesn’t exist — it does — but when it’s the primary driver, and there’s no passion for doing something meaningful or making an impact, they’re much less likely to make it through the tough times. You need to be willing to hit the wall, and hit the wall, and hit the wall — again and again.

If you’re curing cancer, you’ll be willing to hang in there. Or if you believe you’re building a technology that could change the world — like AI — then you’re less likely to give up, and more likely to understand that people aren’t just cogs in the machine.

Q: What does legacy mean to you?

[Richard Hagberg]: I’ll answer that by telling you a story. One of my clients worked for a big international pharmaceutical company. He wasn’t a founder. He wanted me to attend a meeting he was facilitating so I could observe him. I got to the meeting, and a guy sat next to me. The tables were arranged in a U, and he was sitting right beside me. I noticed he was staring at me. I turned and said hello, and he said, “You don’t remember me.” I said, “Help me out — remind me.”

He said, “Well, 10 years ago we worked together.” And all of a sudden, I realised who he was. He had grey hair now — I remembered him when he didn’t — and I said, “Oh yeah!” Then he said, “You changed my life.” I said, “I did?” And he said, “Yeah.” I asked, “What did I do? What did I say?”

He said it was just one thing. He wasn’t an assertive guy. He told me, “You said I didn’t have the right to always get what I want, but I did have the right to be heard.” And I was like, “Okay.”

I’ve heard stories like that a lot. Sometimes they don’t remember it the same way I do, but you never know what you might say or do that changes a single individual — and that person may go on to do something really significant. When I was in college, I was an idealist. I was a protestor and all that. And now, my goal is to help people make change. I help my clients unpack the problems and challenges they’re facing — and hopefully, that makes a difference.

About the Author

Vikas Shah MBE DL is an entrepreneur, investor & philanthropist. He is CEO of Swiscot Group alongside being a venture-investor in a number of businesses internationally. He is a Non-Executive Board Member of the UK Government’s Department for Business, Energy & Industrial Strategy and a Non-Executive Director of the Solicitors Regulation Authority. Vikas was awarded an MBE for Services to Business and the Economy in Her Majesty the Queen’s 2018 New Year’s Honours List and in 2021 became a Deputy Lieutenant of the Greater Manchester Lieutenancy. He is an Honorary Professor of Business at The Alliance Business School, University of Manchester and Visiting Professors at the MIT Sloan Lisbon MBA.

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The Hidden Cost of Care: When Empathy Becomes a Leadership Liability (Part 5 of The Best Leaders Playbook — Inner Mastery Series)

By Rich Hagberg • November 28, 2025

The Nicest Boss in the World He was adored. He remembered birthdays, checked in on people’s families, and stayed late helping fix slides no one asked him to touch. His team called him “the best boss we’ve ever had.” He was also running on fumes. Behind the warm smile was a leader quietly burning out — drowning in everyone else’s problems, too empathetic for his own good. If you’re a leader who prides yourself on caring deeply, this might sting a little: empathy, taken too far, becomes control in disguise. Empathy’s Secret Shadow Empathy is essential for leadership. It builds loyalty, safety, and trust. But the same trait that makes people feel seen can also make them dependent. When you can’t tolerate someone else’s discomfort, you start protecting them from it. You step in to fix, to soothe, to rescue. It looks noble. It feels generous. But it quietly steals agency — theirs and yours. Your team stops growing because you’re doing their emotional labor. You stop leading because you’re managing feelings instead of outcomes. That’s the hidden cost of care. The Emotional Guilt Loop Over-empathetic leaders live in a constant tug-of-war between compassion and guilt. They think: “They’re already stretched — I can’t pile more on.” “If I push harder, I’ll seem uncaring.” “I’ll just do it myself; it’s easier.” Sound familiar? That’s not empathy anymore. That’s guilt masquerading as kindness. And guilt makes terrible business decisions. Because guilt doesn’t guide you toward what’s right. It just steers you away from what feels uncomfortable. A Founder’s Story One founder I coached, let’s call her Lina, led with heart. She built her company around “people first.” And she meant it. But somewhere along the way, “people first” turned into “me last.” She couldn’t say no. She kept saving underperformers, approving vacations during crunch time, rewriting others’ work to spare them stress. Her team adored her — until they didn’t. Because beneath her helpfulness was quiet resentment. And resentment always leaks. The breakthrough came when she realized something simple but hard: “I was protecting people from learning the hard parts of growth.” That’s when she started leading again instead of parenting. When Caring Becomes Control Here’s the paradox: the more you care, the more you risk over-controlling. You jump in to fix not because you don’t trust them, but because you feel for them. It’s empathy turned inward — I can’t stand watching them struggle. But leadership isn’t about eliminating discomfort. It’s about using it wisely. People grow by stretching, not by being spared. When you save someone from every failure, you’re also saving them from competence. The Biology of Burnout Chronic empathy triggers chronic stress. When you absorb other people’s emotions all day, your nervous system never gets a break. You start mirroring everyone’s anxiety like an emotional amplifier. Your brain thinks you’re in crisis — even when you’re not. That’s why over-caring leaders are often the first to burn out. Their compassion becomes constant cortisol. The irony? The leaders who want to create safety for others end up unsafe themselves. How to Care Without Carrying Feel, then filter. It’s okay to feel someone’s frustration. Just don’t keep it. Ask: “Is this mine to hold?” Help through accountability. Say, “I know this is tough, and I also need you to take ownership.” The and matters. Let discomfort be developmental. When a team member struggles, resist rescuing. Stay present, not protective. Coach before you comfort. Instead of “Don’t worry,” try, “What do you think your next move is?” Reframe empathy as empowerment. Caring isn’t about absorbing pain; it’s about believing people can handle it. Funny but True One exec I worked with told me, “Every time I stop helping, I feel like a jerk.” I said, “No — you feel like a leader. It just takes a while to tell the difference.” He laughed and said, “So… you’re telling me leadership feels bad at first?” I said, “Exactly. Growth always does.” The Cultural Ripple Effect When leaders overfunction, teams underfunction. When leaders hold space instead of taking space, teams rise. Empathy should expand others, not consume you. The healthiest cultures balance care and candor — support and stretch. They normalize struggle as part of the process instead of something to be hidden or rescued. That’s what real compassion looks like in motion. The Maturity of Tough Empathy Empathy without boundaries is exhaustion. Empathy with boundaries is wisdom. The mature version of empathy doesn’t say, “I’ll protect you.” It says, “I believe you can handle this — and I’ll walk beside you while you do.” That’s not cold. That’s developmental. Your Challenge This Week Notice where you’re rescuing someone instead of coaching them. Pause before you step in. Ask yourself, Am I helping because they need it — or because I need to feel helpful? Then take one small risk: let them handle it. They’ll probably surprise you. And you’ll feel lighter than you have in months. Final Word Caring is beautiful. It’s what makes you human. But unchecked empathy turns leaders into emotional pack mules — carrying what was never theirs to bear. Real leadership is still full of heart. It just remembers that compassion without accountability isn’t love. It’s fear. And the moment you stop rescuing everyone, you finally start freeing them — and yourself.

Leading Without Fear: The Psychological Maturity Behind Sound Judgment (Part 4 of The Best Leaders Playbook — Inner Mastery Series)

By Rich Hagberg • November 28, 2025

The Smart Leader’s Blind Spot It’s strange how often the smartest people make the worst decisions under pressure. They don’t lose IQ. They lose perspective. I’ve seen this happen more times than I can count. A sharp, decisive executive starts second-guessing every move. They overanalyze, overwork, and overcontrol — all in the name of being “thorough.” They think they’re being rational. But underneath the spreadsheets and meetings is something far less logical. It’s fear. The Fear That Doesn’t Look Like Fear We think of fear as panic — sweating, shaking, obvious. But most leadership fear hides behind competence. It shows up as perfectionism, busyness, overcommitment, indecision. It sounds like, “Let’s get more data.” “Let’s not rush this.” “Let’s keep this one close.” That’s not analysis. That’s avoidance with a better vocabulary. When fear runs the show, the goal subtly shifts from making the right decision to avoiding the wrong one. And those two things are worlds apart. The Cost of Fear-Based Leadership When leaders operate from fear, everything tightens. They stop listening. They rush to defend. They play small when the company needs boldness. They keep people who are loyal over people who are competent — because loyalty feels safer. And here’s the real tragedy: the team starts copying the fear. They become cautious, compliant, quiet. Pretty soon, no one’s leading anymore. They’re all managing risk — mostly emotional risk. A CEO’s Moment of Truth One CEO I coached — brilliant, confident, deeply human — was terrified of being wrong in front of his board. He masked it well. On the outside: decisive. Inside: a constant hum of anxiety. After a tough quarter, he admitted, “I realized half my decisions weren’t based on strategy — they were based on protecting my image.” That moment of honesty was the start of his maturity curve. Once he could name the fear, it stopped running his show. He didn’t become fearless. He became aware. And awareness is what turns reaction into wisdom. Why Fear Feels Safer Than Clarity Fear has a strange way of convincing us it’s caution. Caution whispers, “Slow down and look.” Fear screams, “Don’t move.” The first sharpens judgment. The second paralyzes it. And the more we listen to fear, the more it disguises itself as prudence. That’s why emotional maturity isn’t about suppressing fear. It’s about being able to say, “Ah, that’s fear talking — not fact.” How Fear Distorts the Mind Here’s what happens when fear hijacks leadership: Tunnel vision: You fixate on the immediate threat and forget the big picture. Confirmation bias: You start looking for data that validates your anxiety. Short-termism: You make safe decisions that feel good now and cause pain later. Blame shifting: You protect your ego by pushing ownership outward. The mind gets smaller. The leader gets reactive. The company gets stuck. The Maturity Shift Emotional maturity isn’t about being unshakable. It’s about staying curious in the presence of fear. Mature leaders don’t pretend they’re fearless. They just don’t let fear make the decisions. They pause, breathe, and ask, “What part of this is data, and what part is my insecurity talking?” That single question can change everything. A Founder’s Story A founder I worked with once said, “I’m not afraid — I just have high standards.” But as we unpacked it, he realized those “high standards” were actually a way to control outcomes. He feared disappointment — his own and others’. When he finally stopped trying to protect his reputation and started protecting his clarity, his decisions got faster and cleaner. The business didn’t just grow — it started breathing again. Because when you stop trying to look right, you finally have room to be right. Funny, But True I once asked a CEO what he’d do differently if he weren’t afraid of failing. He said, “Probably the same things I’m doing now — just with less Advil.” That’s the thing: most leaders already know what to do. Fear just makes it hurt more. How to Lead Without Fear (Even When It’s There) Name it early. The sooner you recognize fear, the less power it has. Ask yourself, “What’s the story fear’s telling me right now?” Reframe mistakes as tuition. You’ll still pay for errors — might as well learn something from them. Separate identity from outcome. A bad decision doesn’t mean a bad leader. It means a leader who’s still learning — like everyone else. Keep one truth-teller nearby. Someone who loves you enough to tell you when you’re acting from ego. Practice micro-bravery. Tell one hard truth a day. Say “I don’t know” once a week. Let discomfort become strength training. The Paradox of Fear Fear doesn’t make you weak. It means you care. But if you never face it, it becomes your compass — and it always points backward. Courage, maturity, clarity — they’re not opposites of fear. They’re what happen when you stop running from it. Your Challenge This Week Next time you feel that knot in your stomach — before a board meeting, a tough conversation, a high-stakes call — pause. Ask yourself: What am I afraid might happen? Then ask: What might happen if I act from clarity instead of fear? That’s not therapy. That’s leadership hygiene. Final Word The mark of maturity isn’t fearlessness. It’s self-awareness. You can’t control your fear. But you can choose whether it sits in the driver’s seat or the passenger’s. Great leaders don’t wait for fear to disappear. They lead with it beside them — quietly, respectfully — but never in charge.

The Courage to Let Go: Delegation as the Ultimate Act of Trust (Part 2 of The Best Leaders Playbook — The Paradox of Power Series)

By Rich Hagberg • November 21, 2025

The Overworked Hero Syndrome You can spot this one a mile away. They’re running at 120%, inbox exploding, calendar packed like a game of Tetris. They tell themselves it’s noble — “The team’s counting on me.” But deep down, it’s addiction. I know this pattern because I’ve lived it. That little rush you get when someone says, “We couldn’t do this without you”? That’s the dopamine hit of leadership ego. Feels good. Until it doesn’t. Because being indispensable isn’t a compliment. It’s a warning. Why Smart People Struggle to Let Go Most leaders don’t hoard work because they’re bad at delegation. They hoard because delegation threatens their identity. If your sense of worth comes from being the fixer, the doer, the one who “always delivers,” letting go feels like erasure. Who are you if you’re not in every meeting? Who are you if things go fine without you? That’s the emotional root of overwork — not competence, but fear of irrelevance. Control in Disguise Delegation looks like an operational skill, but it’s really emotional work. Leaders tell me all the time: “I can’t delegate — my team’s not ready.” What they mean is: “I can’t delegate — I’m not ready.” The truth is, your people won’t become ready until you give them the chance. That’s the brutal math of leadership: you can have control, or you can have scale. You don’t get both. A Founder’s Story A founder I coached — let’s call her Sara — ran her company like a benevolent tornado. She did everything: strategy, hiring, investor calls, even reviewing design files “just to make sure the tone was right.” When she came to me, she was working 80-hour weeks and quietly resenting everyone she was “helping.” I asked, “What would happen if you stopped fixing things for people?” She said, “They’d drop the ball.” Six months later, she tested it. She handed off a project completely — no shadow-managing, no emergency check-ins. Her team nailed it. She said, “I didn’t realize they were this capable.” I said, “They didn’t realize you were this controlling.” We both laughed — but she got the point. The Real Meaning of Delegation Delegation isn’t a time-management trick. It’s a transfer of trust. It says, “I believe you can handle this — even if you don’t do it exactly my way.” It’s also a developmental gift. When you delegate fully, you don’t just lighten your load — you level someone up. Delegation is how leaders stop being the engine and start being the architect. The Fear Behind “It’s Easier If I Just Do It” That sentence might as well be carved on the tombstone of burned-out executives everywhere. Sure, doing it yourself feels faster. But every time you do, you quietly train the organization to need you. You build a culture of dependence — and then complain that people don’t take initiative. Delegation feels risky because it is. You will lose control of how something gets done. But you gain something far more valuable: time to lead, not just manage. Funny but True I once told a CEO, “If you died tomorrow, who could run your company?” He said, “That’s morbid.” I said, “No — that’s planning.” He got the message. A few months later, he’d built a real leadership team for the first time. He told me, “It’s weird — I’m working less, and everything’s better.” That’s not weird. That’s delegation done right. How to Build the Trust Muscle Start small, but mean it. Hand off one real decision — not a token task. Resist the urge to check back in “just to see how it’s going.” Define success, not the path. Set the destination clearly, then step back. They’ll probably surprise you with how differently — and often better — they get there. Coach after, not during. Let people own outcomes before you give feedback. Growth requires a little space to fail safely. Reward initiative, not imitation. If you only praise people for doing things your way, you’ll never build leaders — only clones. Say thank you — and mean it. Appreciation is the emotional contract that makes delegation sustainable. The Emotional Reframe Delegation isn’t about trust in others. It’s about trust in yourself — in the system you’ve built, in your ability to recover from other people’s mistakes, and in your willingness to be unnecessary. That last one’s the hardest. But when you finally stop trying to be irreplaceable, your company starts becoming unstoppable. Your Challenge This Week Write down everything on your plate. Circle three things that drain you but could teach someone else something valuable. Pick one and delegate it — completely. Then, when the urge to “check in” hits, take a walk instead. Let them own it. When it works — and it will — tell them. Celebrate it. Because that’s how trust compounds. Final Word Letting go doesn’t make you weaker. It proves you’re strong enough to lead without needing to control. Every founder eventually faces the same test: can you stop being the engine and start being the ecosystem? The day you say yes, you stop leading through force and start leading through faith. That’s not surrender. That’s courage.

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