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The Siren Call of Authoritarian Leaders: A Cautionary Tale
January 17, 2025
Look around: the world feels chaotic. You’re grappling with uncertainty, economic struggles, and a sense that the system you’ve relied on is cracking at its foundation. You’re not alone in feeling this way. Millions share your frustration and along comes someone who seems to have all the answers. They speak with confidence and charisma, cutting through the noise with promises of security, strength, and a brighter future. They tell you, “I will fix everything. Just trust me.” Sound familiar?
This is the allure of the authoritarian leader—a figure who rises to power by exploiting fear and uncertainty, offering solutions that seem simple and reassuring but often come at a steep cost. History is littered with examples of such leaders, from the tyrants of ancient empires to modern-day strongmen. They all share strikingly similar traits and tactics, and the story of their rise and the havoc they wreak—serves as a cautionary tale for us all.
How to Spot an Authoritarian Leader
Authoritarian leaders don’t wear a label announcing their intentions. Instead, they present themselves as saviors in troubled times. Here are some telltale signs to watch for:
- Power Grabbers: These leaders thrive on centralizing power. They bypass checks and balances, dismiss dissenting voices, and make decisions unilaterally. They’ll tell you it’s for the greater good, but it’s really about control.
- Charismatic Rhetoric: They’re often spellbinding speakers who tap into your emotions. They promise simple solutions to complex problems and use repetitive messaging to hammer their points home.
- Fear Merchants: Fear is their currency. They amplify threats—real or imagined—to make you feel vulnerable. They’ll tell you that only they can protect you from “them” (whoever “them” might be).
- Polarizers: Authoritarian leaders thrive on division. They’ll frame the world in black and white: us versus them, good versus evil. This creates a loyal in-group while vilifying an out-group.
- Cult of Personality: They carefully craft an image of invincibility, wisdom, or moral superiority. You’re not just following a leader; you’re following a larger-than-life figure who seems destined to lead.
Sounds appealing? That’s the trap. What starts as admiration can quickly turn into blind allegiance, and before you know it, you’re complicit in empowering someone who might not have your best interests at heart.
The Toolbox of Manipulation
How do authoritarian leaders pull this off? Their playbook is both time-tested and chillingly effective. Here’s how they manipulate and appeal to people:
Emotional Manipulation
They know how to tug at your heartstrings—and your fears. A cornerstone of their strategy is fearmongering. They’ll highlight threats, exaggerate dangers, and convince you that the world is on the brink of disaster. “Without me,” they say, “you’ll be lost.” But they don’t stop at fear. They also dangle hope. Grand promises of prosperity, strength, and security make it easy to ignore the finer details—or lack thereof.
Simplifying Complexity
Ever been frustrated by how complicated the world seems? Authoritarian leaders offer relief. They boil everything down into simplistic terms: “Here’s the problem, and here’s the solution.” Of course, their solutions often ignore reality or trample over ethical considerations, but that’s easy to miss when you’re desperate for answers.
Propaganda and Censorship
Control the narrative, and you control the people. These leaders master propaganda, using state media, social platforms, and misinformation to shape public perception. Dissenting voices are silenced, creating an echo chamber where only their truth exists.
Scapegoating and Division
When things go wrong, they’ll point fingers elsewhere. Immigrants, minorities, opposing political groups, or even entire countries become convenient scapegoats. This tactic redirects your frustration away from the leader and toward a common enemy.
Rewarding Loyalty
They’re experts at creating dependency. Loyal followers are rewarded with perks, jobs, or financial incentives. This reinforces a system where loyalty isn’t just encouraged; it’s mandatory.
Why Do People Follow Them?
Here’s the million-dollar question: if authoritarian leaders are so dangerous, why do people fall for their tricks? The answer lies in psychology, sociology, and political dynamics.
Psychological Factors
- The Authoritarian Personality: Some people are naturally drawn to authority. They value order, hierarchy, and tradition, and they’re more likely to submit to strong leaders who promise to uphold these values.
- Fear and Uncertainty: In times of crisis, fear takes over. People crave stability and security, making them more susceptible to leaders who promise to restore order.
- Need for Simplicity: Not everyone enjoys grappling with ambiguity. Many prefer simple, definitive answers, even if they’re not accurate.
Sociological Factors
- Group Identity: Authoritarian leaders often appeal to a shared sense of identity, whether it’s national, cultural, or religious. By protecting this identity, they gain loyalty.
- Economic and Social Inequality: Inequality breeds resentment. People who feel left behind are more likely to embrace leaders who claim they’ll “level the playing field.”
- Distrust in Institutions: When traditional systems like government or media lose credibility, people look for alternatives. Authoritarian leaders exploit this vacuum.
Political Factors
- Crisis Situations: Emergencies like wars, pandemics, or economic recessions create fertile ground for authoritarianism. In such moments, decisive action—even if it’s authoritarian—feels appealing.
- Polarization: In divided societies, people become entrenched in their views. Authoritarian leaders use this division to consolidate power, presenting themselves as the only solution.
The Danger of Blind Loyalty
Following an authoritarian leader might feel comforting at first, but history shows us where it often leads:
- Loss of Freedom: Authoritarian regimes suppress dissent, restrict free speech, and erode democratic institutions. You might find yourself living in a world where you can’t speak your mind.
- Erosion of Morality: Scapegoating and division lead to dehumanization. You may start justifying or even participating in actions you once considered unthinkable.
- Inefficiency and Corruption: Concentrating power in one person often leads to poor decision-making, cronyism, and corruption.
- Conflict and Violence: Polarization can escalate into outright violence, whether through civil unrest or external wars initiated by the regime.
How to Resist the Siren Call
Recognizing the signs of authoritarianism is the first step to resisting it. Here’s what you can do:
- Stay Informed: Seek out diverse sources of information. Don’t rely solely on what one leader or group tells you.
- Question Simple Answers: Be wary of anyone who claims to have all the answers. The world is complex, and solutions usually are too.
- Engage in Dialogue: Talk to people with different viewpoints. Polarization thrives on isolation; dialogue fosters understanding.
- Support Institutions: Strengthen the democratic systems that keep authoritarianism in check, such as free press, independent courts, and fair elections.
- Recognize Fear Tactics: When someone tries to manipulate you with fear, take a step back and analyze the situation logically.
Conclusion: The Cost of Complacency
The allure of an authoritarian leader is powerful, especially in times of uncertainty. But history’s cautionary tales remind us that the price of blind loyalty is often steep. It’s not just your freedoms that are at risk but your morality, your society, and your future.
So, the next time someone promises to solve all your problems with a wave of their hand, take a moment to pause. Ask yourself: what are they really offering, and at what cost? The answer could mean the difference between a brighter future and a darker path. Stay vigilant, stay informed, and never stop questioning.
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If the COO’s role overlaps with the founder’s, or isn’t communicated to the rest of the team, the COO quickly becomes either a glorified project manager or a powerless deputy. Both end badly. 2. Founder’s Inability to Let Go Many founders simply can’t let go. They want to approve every detail, revisit every decision, and undermine the very autonomy they hired the COO to exercise. A COO who feels second-guessed or constantly overruled either disengages or quits. 3. Misaligned Vision and Values Operational excellence isn’t enough if the COO doesn’t fully buy into the founder’s vision and cultural values. When the COO wants to optimize for stability while the founder is pushing disruption—or vice versa—the two end up pulling the company in opposite directions. 4. Trust and Emotional Reactivity Trust is fragile. If the founder is volatile under stress, or the COO isn’t skilled at navigating the founder’s personality, the relationship becomes brittle. Outbursts, defensiveness, or miscommunications erode psychological safety between them and ripple across the organization. 5. Succession Ambiguity and Power Tensions Is the COO being groomed as the future CEO—or not? Few questions create more tension. If expectations aren’t clarified up front, the COO may feel misled and the founder may feel threatened. Meanwhile, employees begin to compare the two and pick sides. Boards have seen this movie before, and it rarely ends well. 6. Unrealistic Expectations Founders and boards often expect the COO to “fix everything yesterday.” In reality, operational improvements take time—learning systems, culture, and people. When results don’t appear overnight, frustration builds. On the flip side, some COOs expect to make sweeping changes immediately, without respecting the founder’s legacy or the team’s tolerance for disruption. 7. Culture and Communication Breakdowns The founder and COO need structured ways to align—weekly check-ins, clear communication norms, and mechanisms to resolve disagreements. Without them, minor irritations accumulate into major grievances. Worse, the team sees open conflict at the top and begins to question who’s really in charge. 8. Identity and Ego Issues Let’s name the elephant in the room: many founders see hiring a COO as an admission of weakness. They sabotage the hire by bypassing the COO or contradicting them in front of the team. On the other side, ambitious COOs often chafe at being “Number Two.” If the relationship isn’t anchored in humility and respect, egos will clash. How Founders Can Prevent the Breakdown Knowing the pitfalls is only half the battle. Preventing them takes deliberate work: Define the COO’s mandate explicitly —what they own, what’s shared, and what stays with the CEO. 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Someone to turn chaos into motion without killing energy. Startup + Operator Founder May not need a COO yet. If they do, it’s usually a domain specialist (MVP Functionalist) to cover blind spots. Scaling + Visionary Founder Needs an Integrator or a Complement to gaps. Execution and people issues become bottlenecks. Scaling + Operator Founder May need a Change Agent or Heir Apparent. The role becomes about transformation or succession. Mature Company + Visionary CEO The COO role is succession-oriented (Heir Apparent) or complex integration (Hybrid). Mature Company + Operator CEO Sometimes no COO is needed; the CEO already runs operations. In other cases, the COO is simply the next CEO waiting in line. Takeaway Hiring a COO isn’t about “offloading work.” It’s about admitting what kind of company you’re really building, and what kind of leader you are. If you’re the spark but not the engine, you need an Executor. If you’re a force of change but leave wreckage behind, you need a Relationship-Builder complement. If you’re building for the long haul, sooner or later you need an Heir Apparent. The best founders aren’t the ones who try to do it all. They’re the ones who know when to step aside—just enough—to let someone else make the company stronger. Closing Thought In Founders Keepers, I often say: what got you here won’t get you there. The founder’s job is to create possibility. The COO’s job is to turn possibility into performance. The only real mistake is waiting until your company is already fraying before you decide which kind of COO you need. By then, the cost of waiting may be higher than you can afford.
The Founder’s Dilemma Founders are fountains of ideas. You see possibilities everywhere, you connect dots others can’t, and you can sell a vision with enough energy to light up a room. But there’s a problem: ideas don’t implement themselves. They need systems, people, and execution discipline. In my coaching of more than a hundred startup founders—and backed by data from 122 founder assessments—the same challenge comes up again and again: founders are world-class at generating ideas, but their companies stumble when those ideas aren’t translated into action. I have struggled with this tendency for my entire career. My creative ideas just keep bubbling up and my execution discipline and focus can’t keep up. I have the classic “shiny object” distraction problem shared by many founders. The irony? The very traits that made me a classic visionary evangelist—creativity, independence, impatience, and risk tolerance—are the same traits that made execution difficult. If you want your ideas to live beyond a brainstorming session, you must learn to do what feels unnatural: offload execution, delegate real authority, and empower others to carry your vision forward. Why Great Ideas Die Without Execution Most failed ideas don’t die because they weren’t brilliant. They die because: 1. The founder keeps ownership too long, trying to do everything personally instead of empowering others. 2. Delegation is fake, with tasks assigned but no real authority granted, leaving the founder still in control. 3. Priorities aren’t clear, so teams are overwhelmed by too many initiatives and unsure of what matters most. 4. Accountability is weak, with no consistent follow-up or consequences when commitments slip. 5. Founders love possibilities but resist discipline, avoiding the planning, sequencing, and focus execution requires. 6. Ideas are left open-ended, because founders generate endlessly but fail to converge on closure and completion. 7. Optimism turns unrealistic, as founders overestimate what’s possible and ignore what could go wrong. 8. Expectations aren’t communicated, leaving teams uncertain about roles, outcomes, and next steps. 9. They rush ahead without buy-in, moving too fast to bring others along and win their commitment. 10. They undervalue operators, failing to leverage managers of execution who can turn vision into systems. This is what I call the founder time bomb. Early success convinces you that your personal hustle is the engine of growth. But as the company scales, hustle becomes a bottleneck. Unless you shift, your best ideas will choke on lack of oxygen. Step 1: Translate Vision Into Tangible Priorities Your job as a founder isn’t to hand down a 37-slide vision deck and hope for the best. Your team needs clarity. That means breaking down your big idea into concrete, winnable battles. Set the “critical few” : Define 3–5 top priorities for the quarter. Outcome > activity : Don’t assign tasks, define the result (e.g., “Increase retention by 5%”). Overcommunicate : If you feel like you’re repeating yourself, you’re doing it right. One founder I coached changed his company trajectory by beginning every weekly meeting with just three priorities. The noise vanished. His team finally knew what mattered. Step 2: Practice Real Delegation, Not Fake Delegation Too many founders think delegation means assigning a task and then hovering over the person doing it. That’s not delegation—that’s micromanagement with extra steps. Real delegation means: Handing over ownership, not just chores. Giving the decision rights along with the responsibility. Accepting that “80% their way” may be better than “100% your way.” Here’s a phrase worth practicing: “You own this. You don’t need my approval.” Few sentences are harder for founders to say. Few sentences build more trust. Step 3: Build a Culture of Accountability Without Becoming a Tyrant Accountability is where many founders stumble. They either avoid conflict (hoping problems fix themselves) or they overreact when deadlines slip. Both extremes poison execution. Healthy accountability requires: Clear expectations : No hidden rules or shifting targets. Visible commitments : Public goals build peer pressure to deliver. Rhythms of review : Regular check-ins that aren’t nagging but structured. Consequences : Underperformance addressed quickly, not ignored. Accountability isn’t punishment—it’s support. It says, “I expect the best from you because I believe in you.” Step 4: Share Information Like Oxygen Execution thrives on information. Yet many founders hoard knowledge—sometimes out of habit, sometimes out of insecurity. Teams can’t execute if they don’t understand the why behind the what. Empowered teams need: Transparent dashboards : Everyone sees progress metrics. Context, not just orders : Explain reasoning, not just results. Accessible strategy docs : Kill the “founder black box.” When people understand the big picture, they stop running back to you for every decision. They start acting like owners. Step 5: Invest in Second-Line Leaders Scaling execution isn’t about having 50 great individual contributors—it’s about having 5 managers who can each lead 10 people effectively. Yet many founders neglect their managers, focusing instead on product or fundraising. Strong second-line leaders can: Translate your vision into plans. Coach their teams instead of doing the work themselves. Spot and develop talent below them. Your leverage point is not how many people you personally manage, but how many leaders you multiply. Step 6: Watch Out for Founder Autopilot Your instincts—boldness, independence, impatience—got you this far. But they can sabotage you at scale. I call this founder autopilot. It looks like: Jumping back into execution “just to speed things up.” Overloading the team with new initiatives before finishing the old ones. Cutting around your managers and making unilateral calls. The cure is self-awareness. Tools like 360 feedback and coaching help you notice when you’ve slipped back into heroic founder mode instead of scalable leader mode. Step 7: Celebrate Execution, Not Just Ideas Most founders glorify the spark of ideation but forget to recognize the grind of implementation. If you only celebrate creativity, you’ll get lots of brainstorming but little delivery. Shift the culture: Spotlight the team that launched, shipped, or solved—not just the one that dreamed. Tell stories of execution at all-hands meetings. Publicly recognize “builders,” not just “visionaries.” What you celebrate becomes what your team repeats. The Founder’s Evolution: From Genius to Builder of Builders The founder who can’t offload execution ends up as the bottleneck, exhausted and surrounded by frustrated employees. The founder who masters delegation and empowerment evolves into something much more powerful: a builder of builders. In my research, the difference between founders who scaled 10x and those who flatlined wasn’t idea quality. It was execution quality. The 10x founders learned to empower others, create accountability systems, and step back from doing everything themselves. The founder who shifts from “I’ll do it” to “I’ll ensure it gets done” makes the leap from fragile startup to durable company. Closing Thoughts Ideas ignite companies, but execution sustains them. If you want your vision to shape reality, you must resist the temptation to hold the reins too tightly. Translate vision into priorities. Delegate real authority. Build accountability and transparency. Develop leaders beneath you. And above all, celebrate execution as much as you celebrate ideation. That’s how founders ensure their ideas don’t die in the brainstorm stage but live on as products, services, and companies that change the world.
Every founder eventually faces a moment of reckoning. It doesn’t arrive with a clear announcement. It creeps in gradually, often disguised as small frustrations: projects slipping, team members complaining, or investors quietly losing confidence. And at the center of it all is a painful truth: The people who carried you through the chaos of the early days, the ones who slept on office couches, pulled all-nighters, and took pay cuts to bet on your dream—can no longer keep up. The company has grown. The stakes are higher. And the job has outgrown them. This is one of the hardest truths in entrepreneurship, and one most founders struggle to face. Instead of acting, they convince themselves: “She’ll grow into the role.” “He’s been with me since day one—I can’t let him go.” “Loyalty matters more than resumes.” But here’s the hard truth that separates founders who scale from those who stall: loyalty doesn’t scale. Competence does. The Startup Version of the Peter Principle The Peter Principle tells us that in large corporations, people rise to their level of incompetence. In startups, this principle plays out in hyper-speed. What made someone a hero in a five-person company, improvisation, raw hustle, and the willingness to do anything becomes a liability in a 50- or 500-person company. Think about the hacker who was indispensable in the garage. Brilliant at rapid problem-solving, he could patch servers at 3am and crank out features in a weekend. But leading a team of 50 engineers requires a totally different skill set: planning, delegation, recruiting, building processes. His improvisation becomes chaos. His genius turns into bottlenecks. Or the co-founder who thrived on energy and vision. In the early days, charisma and instinct were enough. But scaling requires a discipline around metrics, process, and accountability. What once looked like bold leadership now looks like reckless improvisation. Even the beloved “culture carrier”—the person who organized team offsites, boosted morale, and made the company feel like family—can become a roadblock. When decisions stack up and complexity explodes, loyalty and good vibes aren’t enough. What the company needs is a strategic operator, not just a glue person. This is what I call team obsolescence : the brutal, recurring reality that many early employees get outgrown by the job. The Head vs. Heart Conflict Why do founders struggle so much with this? It’s not because they’re blind. It’s because they’re human. The tension isn’t just intellectual—it’s emotional. Guilt and Indebtedness : Early employees bet on you before anyone else did. They turned down safer jobs, endured lower salaries, and staked their careers on your vision. Cutting them loose feels like betrayal. Psychologists call this the principle of reciprocity: the human drive to repay sacrifices. Founders feel they owe these people more than just a paycheck. Fear of Losing the Magic : Founders often worry that bringing in “outsiders” will ruin the scrappy, intimate culture that made the company special. This is a classic case of in-group bias. We trust the familiar, even when it’s no longer fit for purpose. Many founders cling to the idea that culture is fragile and must be protected from “corporate types.” Conflict Avoidance : Few people relish difficult conversations. Founders, especially those wired to inspire rather than confront, often procrastinate on hard personnel decisions. This is loss aversion at work: the immediate pain of conflict feels worse than the long-term risk of stagnation. Blind Loyalty Bias : Founders frequently overestimate an early employee’s ability to “grow into” a scaled role. This is the halo effect: past loyalty and past performance cast a glow that blinds you to current shortcomings. This is the founder’s head-versus-heart struggle. Rationally, you know the company has outgrown someone. Emotionally, you can’t let go. A Founder’s Story: When Friendship Meets Reality One founder I coached built his company with a close college friend. This friend was the first engineer, working nights and weekends to bring the product alive. He coded nonstop, patched outages at all hours, and was the reason the company survived its early chaos. By Series B, the company had 80 employees. Suddenly the role wasn’t about heroic coding; it was about systems, processes, and leading dozens of engineers. The founder knew his friend was drowning. Deadlines slipped. Senior engineers were frustrated. Investors raised eyebrows. But he kept saying, “He’s been with me since the beginning. I owe him.” Eventually, he faced reality. With coaching, he had the hard conversation: “You’re invaluable to this company, but the role has outgrown your strengths. Let’s find a place where you can thrive without being set up to fail.” The friend transitioned into a specialist role where his brilliance could shine without the weight of leadership. The company brought in a seasoned VP of Engineering. Painful as it was, the decision saved both the company and the friendship. This is the essence of true leadership: honoring loyalty without letting it sink the ship. The High Price of Avoidance The costs of avoidance aren’t abstract—they’re devastating. Execution Bottlenecks : An underqualified leader slows everything down. Projects drag, opportunities slip, and customers churn. It’s like trying to scale a skyscraper on a foundation built for a cottage. A-Players Walk : The best people won’t stay if forced to work under weak leaders. They leave, taking ambition and excellence with them. The company becomes a place where mediocrity thrives. Culture Corrodes : Protecting underperformers sends a loud signal: politics matter more than performance. Over time, resentment builds. High performers check out. Trust erodes. Investor Mistrust : Boards and investors notice quickly when execution falters. They start asking tough questions—not just about your team, but about your judgment as a founder. Founder Burnout : Perhaps the greatest cost: you, the founder, pick up the slack. Instead of scaling your vision, you spend nights fixing problems others should solve. Exhaustion sets in. Your energy, the one resource no one else can replace, gets depleted. What feels like an act of loyalty today can quietly strangle the company’s future. Another Case: The Culture Carrier I once worked with a founder whose operations manager was beloved by the team. She organized payroll, ordered office supplies, and planned offsites. She was the glue. But when the company hit 150 employees, the demands shifted. The job required scalable systems, compliance expertise, and strategic HR planning. She was still running things on spreadsheets and memory. People loved her, but they were increasingly frustrated with the chaos. The founder feared that replacing her would “destroy the culture.” Eventually, he hired a Head of People. But instead of cutting her out, he redeployed her into an employee experience role. She continued to be the cultural heartbeat of the company while freeing leadership to professionalize operations. The lesson: redeployment, when done thoughtfully, preserves loyalty without sacrificing competence. What Great Founders Do Differently The best founders I’ve studied don’t avoid this problem. They approach it with discipline and compassion. 1. They Diagnose Early They don’t wait until the crisis is obvious. They ask themselves, “If I were hiring for this role today, at this stage, would I choose this person?” If the answer is no, they don’t kick the can—they act. 2. They Separate Potential from Plateau Some people can grow. With coaching, training, and mentorship, they can rise to the next level. Others plateau quickly. Great founders don’t confuse the two. They invest in growth where it’s possible and cut losses where it’s not. 3. They Redeploy with Respect This isn’t about discarding people. The best founders move loyal employees into roles where their strengths shine—special projects, advisory positions, cultural leadership. Redeployment preserves respect and institutional knowledge while freeing the company to grow. 4. They Upgrade Before Crisis They don’t wait until the engine fails. They hire seasoned executives early, before execution falters. And they communicate clearly: every stage requires different skills. Honoring the past doesn’t mean guaranteeing the future. Leadership with Compassion The real test of a founder isn’t whether you can attract capital or inspire a team. It’s whether you can make the painful calls that protect the company’s future while respecting the people who got you started. True leadership is not about cold detachment. It’s about balancing head and heart: Gratitude means honoring contributions, celebrating sacrifices, and rewarding loyalty. Governance means making clear-eyed decisions about whether someone can perform at the next level. When founders confuse the two, they put sentiment ahead of survival. But when they balance both, they create companies that endure. One founder I know addresses this directly with his team: “Every stage requires new skills. Some of us will grow into them. Others will contribute in different ways. What matters is building a company that lasts.” That’s leadership with compassion—telling the truth while honoring the past. Why This Matters More Than Ever The startup environment today is more unforgiving than ever. Capital is tighter. Investors are quicker to act. The margin for error is smaller. In this climate, founders who delay tough calls are at greater risk than ever. Execution failures and cultural corrosion are spotted instantly by boards and competitors. The founders who scale are those who balance loyalty with realism—who act before the cracks widen into chasms. The Founder’s Real Test It’s easy to celebrate early wins and bask in loyalty. The real test is whether you can honor that loyalty without being trapped by it. Because here’s the paradox: The only way to truly honor early sacrifices is to build a company that endures. And that means making the call when loyalty becomes liability. Call to Action If you’re a founder facing this dilemma, don’t wait for the board to force your hand. Don’t wait for top talent to walk or investors to lose confidence. Confront it now. Diagnose honestly. Redeploy with respect. Upgrade before crisis. Be compassionate. Be decisive. Be clear-eyed. Your team—and your company—will thank you later.
