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EXECUTIVE LEADERSHIP ACCOUNTABILITY

January 2, 2024

SETTING THE CONDITIONS FOR SUCCESS


Accountability is the glue that ties commitment to results.


It is the process of clarifying expectations and holding people responsible for getting the desired results.


It involves objectively measuring outcomes against established goals, while rewarding achievement and confronting poor performance.


If you do a Google search you will find that many sources define “Accountability” in terms of assigning blame when something goes wrong, or like a parent checking up on and correcting a problem child. One well-known book (Crucial Accountability by Patterson, Grenney et al) describes it as “resolving violated expectations, broken commitments, and bad behavior.” We have a different perspective.


To be accountable means to be reliable, to take responsibility, and to meet commitments. This is behavior that produces results. To hold people accountable means to expect them to follow through, to reward them if they do and to ask for explanations and remedy the situation if they do not.


Sure, there may be times when a leader needs to confront poor performance in a forceful way, and this chapter offers tips to help you do that effectively. But in our view, a more productive mindset sees accountability as a supportive collaboration, a partnership between leader and followers, rather than a parent-child relationship, to enable people to successfully meet their commitments and goals.


Organizations succeed or fail based upon their results. As a leader, it is your job to create an environment in which everyone understands that achieving excellence is expected, and everyone gets the resources and support they need for maximum accomplishment. And just as the talent in your organization are all accountable to you, you are accountable to investors and to your Board (once you have one) to build a dynamic, successful organization. 


This article will help you establish procedures so that:


  • responsibilities and expectations are clearly defined
  • people know what is expected of them
  • processes are in place to monitor progress toward achieving those goals and therefore “violated expectations and broken commitments” arise as little as possible. 


First: Be accountable to yourself


If you want people to be accountable to you and the organization, you have to first be sure that you are accountable yourself, that you take responsibility for your commitments and follow through. What are you going to commit to do, and what results are you going to deliver, in order to move things ahead?


Do you say in meetings that you will do X and Y, and then do them? Or do you let them slide? Either way – especially if you fail to follow through – people will notice. As I will remind you throughout the book, when you are the leader, people are watching you. What you do or don’t do, how you interact with others, how true you are to your word, how fair your decisions appear to be, set the tone for others’ behavior and for the organization’s culture. 


If you don’t do what you said you will do, no one will pay attention to the next goal and the consequences that you set. If you don’t take deadlines, target dates and meeting times seriously, nobody else will. So, follow through. If you lack discipline in meeting your commitments, the people who work for you will model that, and you will be a negative role model.   
 

Set goals for yourself, your team, and the organization.

 

Just as you will be asking your teams to set goals and monitor progress toward achieving them, you need to do the same for yourself. Goal-setting – especially writing down your goals and referring to them frequently – is a tried-and-true method of supporting achievement on a personal level as well as for organizations. (See box, “Goal Setting”) You will probably share your organizational aspirations with your team in goal-setting meetings, such things as:


  • growing sales revenue 
  • Increasing average revenue per user
  • reducing customer acquisition costs
  • reducing churn rate
  • more effectively monitoring burn rate
  • raising a Series B round at the highest possible valuation 
  • increasing monthly recurring revenue from new sales
  • increasing the accuracy of forecasts and performance in preparation for an IPO and ultimately, being profitable and going public. 
  • Improve the recruiting process and in order to acquire more experienced engineers

 

If you are comfortable being a little self-revealing, you might also share some personal goals:


  • “I aim to start all meetings on time. I realize that being late isn’t fair to others.”
  • “I will try to delegate more and empower people to make decisions, rather than trying to do everything myself.”


People appreciate this kind of honesty and vulnerability; admitting that you are human doesn’t detract from your leadership ability! When people realize that you have these goals, they will help you achieve them. If you make a point of wanting to start meetings on time, they are more likely to show up rather than straggle in a few minutes late. If you say you want to delegate, someone will come to you and quietly say, “You said you wanted to delegate more responsibility. I feel I could take on the XYZ project. Please consider it.” 


Goal Setting


Goal setting is a tool that many successful executives and leaders use to maximize their effectiveness. If you are not familiar with this practice, google “goal setting” and you will be confronted by (as of today) 22,500,000 hits with titles like, “10 tips for setting goals” and “The 4 secrets of goal setting.” Use those sources to make your own goal-setting system.


Here are a few things to keep in mind:
 

  1. Divide your goals into various areas of your life, such as Personal (which might include health, learning, exercise, relationships, getting more rest, etc.) and Work/Career (delegate more, be sure to regularly communicate strategic priorities, etc.) Goals for the organization will likely require a separate list, that you may wish to develop in collaboration with others.
  2. Write down your goals, and regularly check to see how you are progressing. Consider using goal setting or project management software.
  3. Simplify. For each goal area (personal, health, etc. ) list 2 or 3 things you’d like to achieve in a given time-frame. If your list is too long, your chances of success diminish.
  4. Compete with yourself. Set measurable goals and aim to meet or beat them. Even hard-to-measure goals, such as being more patient and helpful to others, can fit here: you will know when you fail to measure up and can take aim and try again.

How to hold people accountable: helpful attitudes and behaviors


The most important and necessary step in holding people accountable is to let people know what you want them to accomplish, and what is required of them in order to get there, what their responsibility is. For this, you have to be absolutely clear in yourself what you want to achieve, and then communicate it clearly. It all starts with you.


Here are some important tips:

Trust but verify: Communicate that you believe the person can succeed but also be clear that you will be meeting with them regularly to track progress. This is not about micro-managing. In a lot of early-stage companies, those who are heading up engineering, marketing etc. are not deeply experienced. They may be doing the job for the first time. They can easily get over their heads and get stuck. If employees are afraid to go to the leader/entrepreneur for help getting unstuck, the entrepreneur gets frustrated because the desired results aren’t coming, and if the situation persists, the person ultimately gets fired. The following steps will help you avoid this outcome.

Be organized and structured in your approach. Set up a plan, goals, clear deliverables, milestones, and a schedule of meetings. 
The key to accountability is a disciplined process of planning, goal setting, and fixing timetables to allow you to assess progress and troubleshoot.

Commit to actively helping and supporting your people.
To make accountability work, you have to commit to giving people whatever help they need in order to accomplish their goals. The amount of support will vary a lot. (See Sidebar below, Situational Leadership) The level of competence and experience a person has will dictate the level of direction and support that you need to give them. When you have an experienced “old pro,” you will not need to provide much support or direction – they might know their area better than you do, and a more laissez-faire approach will be appropriate. You can ask them to set goals, put together a plan, and then come to you with it.

On the other hand, less experienced people need a higher level of direction. If you ask them to put together a plan, they may not know where to start. You have to be more involved, both in the planning for a project, and in the various stages of execution, and you may need to bring in some more experienced people to help run the function.

Let them know you expect them to meet their commitments and take the process seriously. You cannot run an organization that is growing and scaling without having a way to be disciplined about meeting commitments.

Set high but reasonable goals. 
If you set stretch goals that are too high, people will get discouraged, or will not take them seriously. If you expect 100% accomplishment of all the goals, they will not aim high and will set goals that are easy to reach. Goal setting works best as a collaborative process, challenging people when they come to you with their plans and timelines, but not imposing goals that will make them feel like a failure if they don’t hit their targets.
 

Don’t be afraid to confront poor performance but avoid being overly aggressive and confrontational in your attempt to challenge them. If people perceive you as intimidating, they won’t be likely to come to you for advice when they’re stuck, and they may need that advice in order to proceed.

Tip: Remember, it’s a collaboration, a partnership to ensure that commitments are met, and it is up to you to set it up to be effective.

Expect that people’s progress may be gradual. Emphasize sustained momentum rather than getting frustrated with any backsliding or lack of rapid results. Patience can be difficult for an entrepreneur, who feels intense pressure due to limited funding and limited time to produce results. You know your runway is short. You know what your burn rate is and how many months you have left. You have critical deadlines when results must be delivered. There are times when things are moving too slowly, and times of crisis, that demand a sense of urgency.

However, even though the start-up leader must be continually aware of things like the organization’s burn rate, a successful startup is often a marathon rather than a sprint. A continuous sense of urgency can create burnout, over-focus on tactical firefighting, and bad, ill-considered decisions. So, this is not black and white. You don’t want to be the boy who cried “wolf!” because people will stop taking you seriously, they won’t believe your sense of urgency is real after a while. And you can’t always lead as if your hair is on fire.

It depends on the situation. If you are running out of funds and you have to get funding in the next three months, you’d better have a sense of urgency! But if you push people too hard, they won’t be able to sustain it and will burn out.

Be supportive and try to inspire commitment but don’t be overly concerned about being liked. It’s not a popularity contest. If people need a push, it’s your job to push. 


ASK YOURSELF . . .

Now that you can see some of the attitudes and behaviors that support greater accountability, take a few minutes for a self-assessment to see how well you hold people accountable as a leader and what you might need to learn or improve:


  • Do I hesitate to hold people accountable because I am avoiding conflict?
  • Have I told myself that it’s easier to do the job myself than to hold others accountable for doing it?
  • Have I made sure people understand goals, expectations and standards and measures of performance that I am going to hold them accountable for achieving?
  • Have we discussed what are acceptable and unacceptable levels of performance?
  • Am I coaching when I see substandard performance?
  • Am I giving enough praise and recognition for improvements in performance and accomplishments? Is the praise timely (soon after the event) and specific?
  • Am I being too sensitive, too nice, too laissez faire?
  • Am I willing to make tough decisions when poor performance persists?
  • Am I focused on results?
  • Is our compensation program (bonuses, promotions) tied to actual performance?
  • Do I understand the difference between holding people accountable for meeting their commitments and responsibilities, and micromanaging, looking over their shoulder and not giving them enough discretion for decision-making.?


Impact Of High Levels Of Accountability


The benefits for the organization of holding people accountable for their progress and achievements is huge. Our research shows that it is one of the most important factors in an organization’s success. Here are some of the payoffs we have seen: New ideas will be implemented more quickly because people are aligned behind common objectives.
 

  • The organization will more rapidly respond to trends and threats and be able to seize business opportunities
  • The organization will hit its targets and more efficiently achieve its goals
  • The organization will more quickly detect and correct errors and learn from mistakes that hamper success
  • The organization will gain a reputation as a meritocracy, and will attract and retain the best people in the industry
  • The organization will continue to develop new solutions and approaches that will allow it to adapt to changing business conditions

 

Key Elements of Accountability

[or, How to Hold People Accountable]


The remainder of this chapter is based on a simple model of key steps to promote greater accountability in your organization. While going through these steps, keep the following fundamental principles in mind:


The leader or manager’s job is to achieve desired results by working through others, and providing the necessary direction and support they need to succeed:

  • By collaboratively defining success 
  • Facilitating an environment in which employees can perform at their best
  • Providing whatever resources teams and individuals need to succeed 
  • Checking in with them often enough to provide necessary guidance 
  • Coaching when needed
  • Monitoring results periodically to keep projects on track
  • Recognizing, appreciating, and rewarding good work
  • Adjusting your leadership and coaching according to their level of competence 
  • Confronting poor performance and helping them correct mistakes and solve problems
Managing Accountability is a process.

Step One: Define Success, Set Clear Goals and Measurable Expectations


Setting goals and expectations and establishing measurable outcomes for each objective is the key to managing accountability. Make sure people understand the goals they are accountable for achieving, what they “own” and are responsible for. Everything flows from this. “Well begun is half done” - do this right and you’re on the road to success.

 

  • Define what success looks like. What are we striving for? Employees and team members must understand that they are expected to deliver results, and will be held accountable for achieving – or not achieving – their goals and objectives. 


Clear communication is crucial. People cannot read your mind, and they don’t always see things the way you do.


Communicate expectations in clear, specific language. Team members should be able to answer the question, “What exactly am I responsible for? How will I know if I have met expectations?" And that failing to meet their commitments has consequences: “People who don’t deliver on their commitments don’t last long at this company.”
 

Goals should be specific, measurable and verifiable by objective standards, and time specific. Write them down. State goals in terms of desired results and the actions needed to achieve them : what you want done and when you want it.

 

“Sudhir is very clear with team members when communicating his expectations and assigning duties and he holds them accountable for getting results. He insists that his people set objective and realistic goals and that they strive to achieve the desired results. ”  


Use the SMART formula for your goals. They should be:

S pecific

M easurable

A ctionable

R ealistic

T ime-related

 

Be crystal clear about deliverables, dates, and who owns what.


Goals should be attainable but still stretch people. They should have a 70-80% chance of success.


Ask, “How will we tell if the goal is accomplished?” What milestones will have been reached? What metrics will show us whether enough progress is occurring or that performance is up to expected to standards.


Ask, “What outcomes could we agree on as a measure of success?”


Be willing to adjust and reformulate goals as the project advances and new conditions arise.


“Joanna will take as much time as necessary to ensure you understand exactly what her expectations of you are. She will then expect you to give her your very best and will not hesitate to let you know if you are not. She is very fair and will work with you if needed.”
 

Set Milestones 

Stages of achievement image.

Milestones mark important stages of achievement of a project. Setting milestones provides a way to monitor progress and track where you are in the process of taking an idea from inception through various stages of development to completion. Project milestones help everyone involved recognize and work toward specific goals. They help ensure that projects are completed and delivered on time and turn out as expected and desired.


Setting milestones is like creating a roadmap, or better, a timeline, as each step is designated with a date. Successful achievement of predefined milestones indicates that a project is on track. Failure to meet a milestone indicates that a project is not proceeding according to plan.


Milestones do not have to be only for major steps; achieving a series of minor milestones gives the team a sense of momentum and boosts confidence.


Typical milestones:

  • Concept approval or approval of a design stage
  • Obtaining funding
  • Identifying staffing needs, hiring or assigning people for key roles
  • Completion of a project phase or stage
  • Product testing started/completed
  • Bugs fixed
  • Product operational


All projects should have at least 4 major milestones:

  1. requirements complete,
  2. design complete,
  3. code complete and test ready,
  4. product shipped/accepted/deployed.
     

Engage, don’t impose


Involve talent in goal-setting and creating milestones. Don’t just impose expectations. Get their understanding and input. Set expectations together, through dialogue.


Don’t micromanage. Try to establish a genuine partnership, an attitude of collaborative inquiry in setting and monitoring goals.

 

Avoid falling into a parent/child relationship of micromanaging – checking up on them too often or looking over their shoulder. When the leader micromanages, team members feel distrusted. Once everyone knows what is expected of them, back off and let them work. 

 

Micromanaging focuses on process and attempts to control it; accountability focuses on outcome and getting results.

Empower your team to succeed. You are interested in outcomes, not how people get there. Trust them to figure it out. They don’t have to do it your way in order to get good results.


“Genevieve is the exact opposite of a micro manager - which is exactly what makes her so effective. She gives a task and allows completion. She isn't so concerned about making sure it is done ‘her way’ but rather about making sure it is done. She provides responsibility to those below her which is appreciated.”


People are more motivated when they have a say in how goals are set and measured. Motivation rises when they feel that what they do matters, so remind them. Show them how their function and their team contributes to the success of the whole. Get their skin in the game. 

“It doesn’t make sense to hire smart people and then tell them what to do.

We hire smart people so they can tell us what to do.” – Steve Jobs

SITUATIONAL LEADERSHIP


The premise of Situational Leadership is that your leadership style should be adjustable and adaptable, relative to the level of “readiness” – competence and motivation – of the people you are responsible for leading. (Some call this “tailoring your message to your target audience.”) The takeaway: it is your responsibility as the leader to figure out the leadership style that will work best for specific talent and team members.


For example, with experienced, competent people who have bought into your goals, a more supportive and laissez-faire style works well, while neophytes will likely require more support and help setting direction, identifying goals, and even figuring out tactics to achieve those goals. 


There are many variations of this theory, perhaps the most well-known coming from Ken Blanchard and Paul Hersey, who designated four main styles:

  • Directing  – The leader makes the decisions, sets the objectives, directs others on what to do and how to do it, and then closely supervises. This is a very top-down approach, with mostly one-way communication, recommended for new employees or people with the lowest levels of both skill and prior experience.
  • Coaching  – Rather than dictate to employees, leadership “sells” their ideas and plans, explaining and persuading, allowing for discussion and input. This is effective for people with more experience and skill, but who may lack motivation or confidence.    Supporting  – Employees have more responsibility for decision making. Leaders are available to provide direction but give more attention to feedback and support.
  • Delegating – Leaders provide minimum guidance and follow-up, delegating authority to employees to make decisions and plan strategies for implementation. The more capability they demonstrate, the more autonomy you can give them. The highest level is empowerment: enabling employees to set their own work goals, make decisions, solve problems on their own, and take responsibility for the result.


“Ricardo recognizes his high performers and gives them flexibility in innovating and determining future paths for their projects and careers.”

Supportive vs Directive Behavior diagram.

S1 – Directing: The leader defines roles and sets goals, tells talent what tasks to do as well as how to do them. Communication is primarily top down and one directional. Effective for people with low competence.
S2 – Coaching/Selling: For people with greater competence than S1, the leader serves as motivator and coach.
S3 – Supporting/Facilitating:  A more collaborative relationship in which leader and followers share in decision making. Employees are more competent and aligned, but leader may still need to provide motivation or coach some skills.

S4 -  Delegating: Competent and motivated talent now need little direction or support from leaders, who can delegate tasks and stand back and let talent run with the ball.


Could conclude at the bottom,
“Leaders need as many people as possible who are in the bottom left quadrant: self-starting, capable, competent.” 

Step Two: Coach, Develop, and Support

Develop and support diagram.

One of the defining characteristics of entrepreneurs is that they have a high need for autonomy and independence. They are often non-conformists who do not like to be controlled or told what to do. As a result, when they take on a role as leaders – often their first time managing anything – they may fail to provide sufficient clarity about purpose and goals to their direct reports. But not everyone is an independent self-starter like they are. One of their lessons is to recognize that both individuals and the organization as a whole need the direction and support that only they, as the leader, can provide.


The amount of direction and support will vary, depending on how experienced and competent a person is. A more capable and experienced person needs less of your attention than someone who is new to the job or to the organization. (See Situational Leadership image below)

A diagram of situational leadership by hersey blanchard

The ideal is to have employees who are competent and self-directed. But even someone who is knowledgeable may lack motivation, and your job then becomes to light a fire under them, giving support and encouragement.


The main question you need to ask yourself is, How can I ensure that they have the best chance to achieve the goals we have set together? This is the underlying attitude that will make the collaboration effective and set people up for success.


  • Provide the Resources Needed for Success. Needed resources may include
  • More team members with experience and domain expertise
  • Funding necessary to get the job done
  • Information that will enable them to make good decisions and set the right priorities
  • Connections who can help, support, and mentor them
  •  Invest in training and developing the skills critical to achieving your strategic objectives
  • Make sure people are prepared to do the tasks assigned to them. Provide training where it is needed.
  • Don’t assume people will always figure it out on their own.
  • Successful leaders and their organizations are adept at setting goals and then helping employees attain those goals through training, coaching, and doing whatever it takes to move forward. Setting goals and then throwing people in the deep end of the pool with the hope that they will swim rather than sink – that they will figure it out and come through with results – is not an effective strategy. 
  • Make sure you have the right people – in the right roles
  • Is current talent capable not only of meeting present demands, but also scaling, growing the organization? If you see that some people are over their heads as growth and success transform the company, you may need to make some changes in personnel.
  • This is especially true if you do not have time to coach, train, and develop the people you have. Coaching everyone is not feasible, nor is it necessarily in the organization’s best interest, especially if the timeline is short.
  • Letting people go can be difficult for you if someone has been loyal and hard-working, perhaps part of the original team, yet is now struggling to keep up. Possible solution:  See if you can retain the person, but move him/her to a position better fitted to their capabilities, or bring in a more experienced person, from whom they can learn.
  • In addition to the right people, you need enough people. You may have one engineer developing a product or feature, but to get it out the door in the time frame you have set, you may need three.
     

Determine and allocate the financial resources that are needed


How are you going to pay for those additional engineers? (Or whatever else you need.) Obviously, budgets are a constraining factor. If the project is critical, you may need to find resources elsewhere, such as moving somebody off a non-critical project.  


Step Three: Monitor

A diagram of managing accountability is a process

Monitoring progress is a vital part of accountability. As the leader, you need to set clear, measurable goals, get the process of achieving those goals started, keep it moving along, and regularly monitor progress. Establish not only a final goal, but interim objectives to mark successful, partial progress.


Consider using OKR software to help set, align, and track progress, which can be very helpful in clarifying desired results, setting up timelines and delivery dates, and tracking progress. We’ll talk about OKRs more fully later in the chapter. Check in periodically, both in an informal way and through the objective measures and metrics you have established, to ensure that things are progressing, and be there to help if people are encountering difficulty. This does not mean interfering or micromanaging.


Tips for effective monitoring:


  • It is important to formally and informally review plans and progress. Set up regular meetings as a routine. Tip: Don’t only call meetings when there are problems.
  • If you feel it would be helpful, have employees send you progress reports at specified intervals. (See below)
  • Set up metrics and objective measures of success and progress. Establish benchmarks. Without data, how will you measure progress? 
  • Use tools such as OKR software to determine whether people are hitting the performance targets they have been assigned or have agreed to meet. 
  • Establish the expectation that you want to hear about problems before they become serious.
  • Create an atmosphere of trust, in which people feel you are there not to judge them but to help them be successful. Then they will not be afraid to come to the boss for help when they become stuck. Otherwise people may hide the difficulties they are encountering.


Important:  If problems are not brought up, and the employee continues to be stuck, the leader may become frustrated because expected results are not coming. This may erupt as anger and/or overly aggressive, combative, confrontational behavior. Try to avoid this, by building trusting relationships and encouraging people to bring up problems while they are still minor, rather than letting them grow.  On the other hand, a little “tough love” may sometimes be needed to help the person wake up to his/her responsibilities and get back in focus.


Progress Reports


Progress reports on ongoing projects, made accessible to all stakeholders, can provide continuing, transparent assessments of the project’s status. They are helpful for those directly involved in the project, for you as the leader, and for interested stakeholders who do not have ready access to the project or team.


One of the great benefits of progress reports is that they help to identify problems and risks early, so course corrections can be made in a timely way.


Written reports require some time for reflection and formulating ideas in more depth and detail than a verbal check-in, so we recommend them. Progress reports are not necessary in all cases, but If you feel you’d like to receive reports to be sure the goals you set are being met:
 

  • Establish a schedule for reports to be submitted
  • You may need to help design the format of the progress report and what it should include
  • Designing the report will take a little time, but once it’s done, subsequent reports will just be about filling in the needed information
  • If deadlines are missed, ask for an explanation of why, and how the individual or team plans to correct the situation

 


A typical Progress Report might include some or all of these topics:
 

  1. Key owners or project manager of each deliverable
  2. Project scope (example: one-year project involving 5 departments and $14 million) 
  3. Brief verbal summary including
  4. Current project status including percentage completed
  5. Major deliverables completed
  6. Milestones reached
  7. Key priorities for the upcoming week/month 
  8. Is the project on time and on budget? 
  9. Important decisions needed 
  10. Project performance rating: red, yellow, or green
  11. Green = on target (project deliverables are on track and delivery is on target for projected date)
  12. Yellow = at risk (project is X percentage complete and in X phase] 
  13. Red = off-track (project is delayed) 
  14. Key Milestones: milestones scheduled for achievement since the last report, and performance against those milestones
  15. Review: What is the impact of achievement or non-achievement of key milestones for the previous period?
  16. Budget: planned expenditure, actual expenditure, surplus, problems
  17. Timing: original planned completion date, current planned completion date, actual completion date (for a completed project)
  18. Brief summary of key accomplishments for the last period
  19. Important risks for next period?
  20. Additional issues

 

When a problem comes to your attention, try to understand what has happened.

  • Did the person know and understand what was expected?
  • Did you communicate expectations clearly?
  • Did they have an effective plan of action? 
  • Did they diagnose the problem accurately?
  • Did they exercise good judgment?
  • Did they not have the skill to solve the problem?

 
Help them analyze and understand the difficulty, but in most cases, you are not the person responsible for solving the problem, you are there to help and to brainstorm with them.

Organize a skip-level meeting.

 

If you feel the need for a broader perspective on issues within the organization, you might schedule a “skip-level” meeting, where you meet one on one with the people directly involved in a project, for example the engineers rather than just the head of engineering.


Leaders sometimes get isolated from the “grass roots” level of activity, especially in bigger companies, and this is never healthy.


Skip-level meetings should be seen as a common, generic phenomenon, so managers don’t feel they are being singled out to be checked up on. It is okay for them to sometimes attend these meetings, but you need to tell them, “Sometimes it’s important for you not to be there, so people feel free to speak their minds.” (See image, Questions to Ask at a Skip-level Meeting)

For Teams:


  • Are you getting the cooperation you need from other functions and teams?
  • What are some of the things your team has accomplished in the last few months that you feel most proud of?
  • What are the biggest challenges your team faces?
  • Are there any specific obstacles holding you back from achieving your goals? What could company leadership do to remove the obstacles and help you be more successful?
  • What can we do to more quickly and efficiently bring in needed talent?

 
For a one-on-one: 

  • What parts of your job give you the most satisfaction and feeling of accomplishment?
  • What do you like most about your job, and about working here? Least? 
  • Is it clear to you how your job fits into the company mission, vision, and strategy?
  • What could be done to make this a better place to work?
  • What are the areas of inefficiency you see, that get in your way?
  • What are your biggest sources of frustration?
  • What made you interested in joining our company? What were you most excited about when you started? Is it working out the way you hoped?
  • If you were CEO, what would you do differently, emphasize or de-emphasize?
  • Do you feel that people get enough recognition for work well done?
  • If you could change one thing about your job, or about the company, what would it be?
  • What are your personal career interests and aspirations? How can we help you fulfill them here?
  • If you encounter a problem you can’t solve, where do you go for help and support?

 

Learn about your people through surveys

 

To learn more about individuals in the organization, as well as about morale and engagement in the company as a whole, you can make use of various kinds of survey instruments.


Two examples:

  • 360 degree multi-rater feedback surveys - these gather assessments from an employee’s colleagues, supervisors, and subordinates to create a picture of their performance.
  • Engagement surveys - these gauge overall employee engagement, their job satisfaction, enthusiasm, and commitment to the organization, their trust in management and relationship with their manager, their sense of the company atmosphere, and so on.

 

 

Create a true meritocracy by objectively assessing performance and putting the most capable people in critical positions

 

One of the keys to keeping top talent is to create a meritocracy, using objective criteria to determine how well people are performing and living up to their commitments and responsibilities, and rewarding those who do well.


Advancement in the company, in a meritocracy, is not based on subjective evaluation, political clout, or whether you are the boss’s brother, but on whether you are actually delivering results.

Don’t expect people to do it your way

 

You are in the position you’re in because your way of doing things was successful. Your route up to the mountaintop is what got you there. But there are other routes. So it’s best to focus on results. Give people a chance to find their own way. Of course you will have processes in place to measure their success and redirect them if they’re heading toward a cliff, but as long as the needle is moving, and the metrics and milestones show that progress is being made, try to be open and supportive of alternatives.


Tip: Experienced, capable people do not want to be told what to do. You will lose them if you insist on micromanaging, or that everything be done your way.
 

Provide regular, honest feedback about performance

 

Discuss with people on every level what are acceptable and unacceptable levels of performance.


It is the responsibility of leaders and managers to provide people with direct feedback about their performance. People are usually eager to receive feedback. They want to know what they are doing well, and how they can improve.


“With James you always know how you are performing. You know the goals of the operation as well as your personal goals. Some people have a hard time with James because he is upfront and honest on your performance and most people aren't used to having this honest discussion. Many leaders beat around the bush on performance but James doesn't”.


This doesn’t mean they won’t get defensive if you let them know where they fall down and need improvement. But if you have objective data, such as from the 360, an engagement survey, and the fact that you talked to people at a skip-level meeting about their performance, they are likely to listen.


Based on whatever metrics you are using to monitor performance, offer praise and recognition for meeting their goals, and hold them accountable and offer suggestions for improvement when they don’t.


It is better to provide feedback early and often rather than letting problems grow and fester.


Giving feedback throughout the life of a project allows for adjustments when necessary, and prevents surprises at the end. A common failing, especially among inexperienced leaders, is that they tend neither to offer enough recognition for work well done, nor are they direct enough in confronting poor performance, giving forceful feedback when there is a problem. [See Step Four below, “Reward and Confront”]


 
Important: Be sure people really understand that your goal in pointing out mistakes and making suggestions is not to criticize but to help them improve their effectiveness. “We’re all in this together.”


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Heidi not only holds people accountable, but she also makes herself available – her door is always open for you to come and ask for help to achieve results. If she is not able to help, she will seek help from other resources.”


Don’t wait for end-of-quarter or year-end reviews to give feedback, when it is too late.
 

Check-ins


The “check-in” slots that you see between major phases in the Accountability model indicate times for the leader to check in with subordinates to ascertain how things are going. This can take the form of a meeting, whether one-on-one or with the team, or it can be as informal as running into each other in a hallway and asking, “How are things going with the ABC project?” or “What’s the latest on the product launch?” It’s good to schedule check-ins regularly and keep to the plan without allowing the latest “fire” to control your schedule.


When you check in:

  • Listen to what they’re doing
  • Ask probing questions, don’t just accept “Fine, it’s going great.” Find out if there are any challenges, if they are stuck, or what are the specifics of their latest progress 
  • Offer support if they are stuck or have questions
  • Challenge them: to raise the bar, to question processes, to make an effort to hit targets, to improve the level of output. Sometimes, with a high achiever, all you need to say is, “I think you could do a little better job on X,” or, “If you put in a little more time and thought, I think this could be improved,” or, “I’m sure you can find a way that you and your team could get this back on track,” or, “Can you think of a way to achieve this goal more quickly or efficiently?”

 

Check-ins are valuable at any point, to let the talent know your attention is on what they are doing, and for you to keep your finger on the pulse of the company.

Make a priority of managing your time.

 

If you are new to management and leadership, it may be difficult for you to switch from being a “doer” to being manager of a group of doers, but it is a necessary transition if you are going to survive without burning out. As time goes by and the company grows and scales, you will need to spend more time working on the company, rather than in the company.

A powerful system for increasing accountability: OKR = Objectives and Key Results

 

The OKR system, created by former Intel CEO Andy Grove and popularized by venture capitalist John Doerr, was designed to align all members of the team behind a common set of objectives. Each manager and his or her reports work together to establish objectives and key results. They set timelines and dates and set up metrics to track progress, milestones, and steps of achievement. The organization as a whole has strategic objectives and key results that it is looking to accomplish; each function has objectives and key results; and within the function all the talent – engineers, sales, etc. – have their individual objectives and key results.


Goals and results can be displayed openly at all-hands meetings for the entire organization to see. Many companies use a red light – yellow light – green light system, where teams that fail to move the needle toward achieving their objectives since the previous meeting get a red light, those who have moved forward to a measurable extent are rated with the yellow light, and those who reach their goals are colored green.


Nobody wants to stand up in front of the whole company and admit that for the third month in a row they have failed to make progress toward a key OKR. It’s a powerful form of social pressure to encourage individuals and teams to live up to their commitments, and to get the whole organization aligned behind the strategic objectives.


In a transparent system of accountability like OKR, people get rewarded and/or promoted because they hit their targets, not because of political favoritism. Likewise, when somebody gets fired for poor performance, it is obvious to everybody why it happened.


Ideally all members of the team feel accountable for specific results, not just to the boss, but also to each other. This adds greatly to the effectiveness of OKR as a tool for creating a culture of accountability.


Step Four: Reward and Confront

Managing Accountability is a process

My experience is that young entrepreneurs, particularly those with a tech/engineering background, are not strong either in rewarding and praising, or in dealing with conflicts and problems on the team or in the organization. They tend to be conflict averse. They love to solve problems, but not necessarily the human kind that may entail messy emotions, so even if they become aware that a conflict situation exists or is brewing, they may hold back and take no action until forced to by a crisis.   But there are always problems, and ultimately the leader is responsible for getting them fixed – not fixing them yourself, but making sure that issues get resolved and obstacles to progress and productivity are removed. The longer you let things slide, the more difficult it becomes to set them right. So whatever the difficulty, it’s best to deal with it as soon as possible.


“Ingrid rewards her people for their good work and also challenges them to do better, when she believes that their performance is below par. She holds each employee responsible for their own actions. She has rewarded me with a lunch for all the good work I have done. But when there is someone not meeting standards she has no hesitation in reprimanding them.”


Entrepreneurs are also frequently perfectionists with very high standards, and they expect everyone else to do as thorough and “perfect” a job as they do. So just as they are not great at giving critical feedback, they also do not freely offer recognition or praise or celebrate milestones for work well done.


But recognition and praise are extremely important to most people, and they are strong motivators to continue performing at a high level. People want to be respected and valued for their contributions.
Failure to offer praise and reward for people who deserve it, is counter-productive. It’s a missed opportunity for leadership. The research is clear: when people feel valued, productivity and satisfaction increase, and so does motivation.

Did you know this? Research has verified that the most effective ratio of praise to blame, positive to negative feedback, is 7 to 1. How well do you stack up to this formula for maximizing effectiveness?

Bottom line: leaders need to learn both to confront poor performance, and to praise progress and achievement.
“Dennis will be the first one to let you know you have not achieved the ideal result, but he will also be the first one to recognize achievement and he will be the first to congratulate you on it. I find that this is a great motivating tool and pushes employees to work towards their best.”


Tip: Whether you are delivering praise or questioning poor performance, do it yourself, live – not by email, not by delegating someone else to do it. Probably you will not want to do this (especially the tough stuff) but it will have a much greater impact if it comes from you. 

Be on the lookout for individuals who are doing things right, and reward them.

 
A lack of praise and recognition is a strong factor in making people unhappy with their jobs. A study by the Gallup organization showed that those who go unrecognized are 3 times more likely to quit. A study by Heaphy and Losada at the University of Michigan Business School found that the best performing teams used 6 times as many positive comments for every negative one, while the worst performing teams used 3 negative comments for every positive one. Excessive criticism dampens enthusiasm and commitment.


Many times, dependable, +-consistent and trustworthy people are taken for granted. Create heroes in every role by recognizing excellence at all levels.


Keep a close eye on everyone on your team and find something you like. Search for people doing things right rather than focusing on mistakes.


Help people understand how their efforts are contributing to the overall mission and strategy of the organization. Take time to show them the deeper meaning and purpose of their work.

There are many ways to show your appreciation

 

Money, in the form of salary increases and stock options, is a tried-and-true method of rewarding employees and team members for making a positive difference. But it is far from the only way.


In a book entitled, “1001 Ways to Recognize Employees”, author Bob Nelson suggests that the top two drivers of employee performance are: “I am able to make a difference at work” and “I have been recognized recently for what I do.” He found that money ranks a distant fifth place. 


Here are a few suggestions that will make your people feel appreciated and motivated:

  • Simplest of all: Offer a sincerely spoken “thank you”. Important: For praise to be most effective it needs to be specific. Tell the person what they did that was beneficial and what was the positive impact 
  • Recognize heroic efforts, people who have gone the extra mile or who have been essential to the success of an initiative or project. Send them an email or a handwritten note of appreciation, or arrange a personal meeting 
  • Offer a paid training or professional development opportunity of their choice
  • Take them to lunch 
  • Find an opportunity for a verbal shout-out in front of everyone
  • A promotion or a move to a different part of the company they are interested in exploring 
  • A gift card for Amazon, a favorite restaurant, or a store you know they like
  • Free tickets to a ballgame or concert 
  • For a significantly large contribution: a paid vacation
  • A voucher for a massage or an afternoon at a spa
  • Express interest in their personal life, partner, children
  • Offer a flexible work schedule, or some time off

 

For more ideas for rewarding your people, a quick Google search brings up, for example, “101 Ways to Reward Employees (Without Giving Them Cash)”, “52 Epic Ways to Reward Your Employees,” and many, many more.   Tip: Don’t offer praise unless it is truly deserved. Any insincerity will be noticed. Praise needs to be genuine and heartfelt and delivered with conviction and emotional connection. A passing, “Good job” means very little. Be specific in praising the behavior that you want to see repeated: “I thought the way you handled the situation with our big customer at the meeting last week was very effective, because you said XYZ and that addressed their concern.”

Reward managers and team leaders for challenging ineffective practices and outdated assumptions, and for finding more efficient ways to do things 

 

Encourage an organization-wide mindset of excellence and continual improvement. Develop a culture of discipline. Communicate to others that we will not be truly successful unless we focus our efforts on striving to be better – individually and as an organization.

Cultivate a learning organization that continually strives to improve and learn from successes, mistakes and failures

 

To deepen the knowledge and insights that lead to success, the most effective leaders and their organizations learn from their mistakes as well as their achievements. When projects fail to produce the desired results, try to understand what happened. Ask, “What did we do wrong,” in order to avoid making the same mistakes in future. You can also learn by analyzing your successes to see what worked and what you can carry forward from those victories into new projects. One effective tool is periodic debriefing.

Debriefing: Learn from your successes and failures

 
At the conclusion of a project or even at various stages of progress, conduct a debriefing with your people and discuss what worked and what did not work. Lessons can be learned from both. More than a mere discussion, a debriefing should probe more deeply, inquiring why things happened the way they did, and what can be done to retain positive elements and eliminate mistakes. Encourage people to take part in the discussion with openness and a desire to improve personal, team, and organizational performance.    Here are some suggestions for effective debriefing: 

  • Decide how often you want to conduct debriefing sessions, and stick to the schedule. Some teams hold a short session every morning (you may not need to participate that often) to review the previous day’s progress and set goals for the day. Once a week, or even once a month can work. One benefit of scheduling – people know it’s going to happen, and begin to gather their thoughts on what to share beforehand. 
  • It’s all about learning – not just rehashing, and never about blaming. The underlying thought should be: How can we do better? What can we improve?
  • Keep it relaxed and informal: but focused. 
  • Ask yourself and the team: 
  • Did we hit our objectives? This will be obvious if you set clear targets and established metrics. 
  • Why do you think we hit/missed the target? What did we do right? Where did we mess up? In almost all cases, there will be a mix of positive and negative factors. (We were aligned and focused, we put in the necessary time, we jumped in without sufficient planning, we weren’t strongly motivated, etc.) Try to come up with at least 4 or 5 reasons for how things turned out. 
  • If you reached or exceeded your goal, acknowledge and celebrate that, and thank team members for their contribution. 
  • Take responsibility for any ways you personally failed to meet your own targets or failed to provide adequate guidance and direction. If you do this at the beginning of the session – which means you have to think about it ahead of time – then others will be inspired to speak openly, and you will have a more fruitful discussion.
  • Write down, together, what you have discovered, and how you can apply it to future projects. Decide on action steps to implement your findings. Distribute this document to everyone involved 

 

How to give constructive criticism


  • Remember that both praise and criticism can be motivators
  • Be thoughtful of the person you’ll be speaking to, and weigh the risks and benefits before giving any negative feedback
  • Start by letting the person know that their contributions are appreciated. Then make a specific suggestion for how to improve their effectiveness. Avoid chit-chat; get to the point
  • Deliver criticism in private, behind closed doors – never in front of others
  • Never deliver a critique when you are angry or upset. Take time to cool down but still deliver constructive feedback as soon after the incident as possible. Difficult conversations can morph into lawsuits, so be very careful what you say
  • Focus on behavior that you have observed and avoid personally attacking the person. This will lead to defensiveness
  • Be specific about the behavior and the implications of this behavior to the organization
  • Tell the person that you still have confidence in them and their abilities but emphasize that their performance needs to change
  • Give them a chance to respond to your statements and really listen
  • Agree upon the future performance you expect
  • Establish a timeline for following up on their progress

 

Recognize that people from some backgrounds may not be comfortable confronting or being confronted with poor performance issues

 

  • It could be cultural: some cultures, such as Indian and East Asian, have more indirect ways of dealing with performance problems, compared to the more direct confrontational style of the West. There are also different corporate cultures, some more laissez-faire than others 
  • It could be personal: Some people are tougher than others in their ability to issue and receive strong critiques 
  • So be aware of who you are dealing with and moderate your approach – but that doesn’t mean you can avoid facing problems head on.


What to do when there is a performance problem

 

No matter how many precautions you take to set up clear expectations, give firm direction, and set people free to be creative, problems will arise. Results will lag; people will fail to ask for help when they need it; unexpected obstacles will come up and the project may get derailed.

Everybody Gets Stuck  “All people and all work units get stuck. Effective leaders recognize when their team is stuck and either figure out what to do to get it unstuck or get help from others to do so. Although it may be hard to admit that you need help, it is a fact of corporate life.” – Successful Manager’s Handbook , PDI Ninth House, 2010

When someone is stuck and is having difficulty moving forward on a project, or when there is a gap or discrepancy between what you expected and what gets delivered, go into a conversation about accountability with the intention to understand what happened, and to find a mutually workable solution to fix the problem and set up conditions so it won’t be repeated. Don’t be looking to assign blame, or to discipline the person (although that may in the end be necessary) but rather to understand. Try to have a scientific attitude of curiosity: What happened? Why?


Try the following steps to resolve the problem:

  1. Meet privately with the person. Advice from the Society for Human Resource Management (SHRM) suggests, “Treat the person respectfully, but don’t engage in small talk to put off the issue. Acknowledge immediately that this is going to be a difficult conversation about serious performance issues.” [reference: “11 Tips for Talking About Poor Performance: How to protect your organization when handling the hard stuff” By Jonathan Segal, https://www.shrm.org/hr-today/news/hr-magazine/0416/pages/11-tips-for-talking-about-poor-performance.aspx]
  2. You might begin by saying there seems to be a gap between expectations and performance. Does the person see that, and understand that there is actually a problem?
  3. If so, are they motivated to resolve it?
  4. Determine whether the problem is due to poor communication, faulty understanding about goals and objectives, lack of skill or knowledge, or they simply don’t have experience with the challenges they are facing 
  5. What have they tried, how have they attempted to deal with the problem?   
  6. Is it a one-time issue, or a repeating pattern?
  7. Does the person agree that a change in behavior or approach will help resolve the issue?
  8. Does the person feel he or she has what it takes to overcome the difficulty? 
  9. If the discrepancy is minor, ask the person to come up with a plan to get back on track, and put the plan in writing
  10. If the problem is major, ask the individual to meet with you to develop a plan for meeting their goals
  11. They might need coaching or formal training
  12. They might benefit from a mentor being brought in, or a consultant
  13. Seek knowledgeable advice. Find someone, within the company or in another organization, who has dealt successfully with this issue, and solicit their help. Ask them how they have handled this problem, what solutions have worked for them, etc. If you value your employee, the expense and time can be worth it. 
  14. Avoid being too quick to take the entire task back or assign it to someone else. Give them a chance to make it right – unless it’s obvious they are not able to.
  15. Monitor their progress on the new plan.
  16. Acknowledge positive steps made.
  17. Make yourself available for feedback and encouragement.

 

Tip:  Don’t fixate on problems so much that you neglect to acknowledge and reward achievements. 


Accountability and the Three Pillars of Leadership


Visionary Evangelist  – Visionary Evangelists are passionate about turning their vision into reality. They can therefore be demanding, and focused on their own agenda. They can also be prone to micromanagement because of their obsession with excellence and a desire to control all decisions about product. They usually believe their way is the best, or even the only way. Because they tend to be overly optimistic, their goals and timelines are often unrealistic.


Because they are extremely self-starting, they often fail to recognize that others need more support and direction. They tend to throw people in the deep end.


They have high expectations, but they often don’t take the time to define or communicate them. They set high goals for others (as well as for themselves) and get frustrated and sometimes angry when others don’t perform as well as they would like.


They often don’t follow through in a disciplined manner or set up a systematic process of check-in and monitoring to ensure that accountability happens.


They need to either learn to create those structures, or bring in a Chief Operating Officer or someone with a Manager of Execution profile to help them.


Relationship Builder – Relationship Builders are the most socially skilled. Naturally warm and friendly, they easily engage people in the goal-setting process, and try to generate a coherent, harmonious work environment.


  • They are free with praise and generous with support and coaching.


  • They create the kind of warm and friendly atmosphere that everyone likes to be around, but may lack a strong enough drive for successful outcomes. They tend to be overly informal and easy-going and don’t set up a clear expectation that people have to work hard and produce results.

    Because they strongly desire harmony and for everybody to get along, they tend to avoid confronting people when there are problems, such as failure to meet promised deadlines, and thus they may fail to hold people accountable.


  • They are often too trusting that people will keep their commitments, so they don’t monitor carefully or verify progress toward performance goals.


For Relationship Builders, whether they admit it or not, harmony and being liked are often more important than results. It is hard for them to be demanding and to make tough decisions when performance is sub-standard. Providing negative feedback, or disciplining people when it’s needed, is hard for them. Rather than deal with problems when they are small, they take a “wait and see” approach. Sometimes problems do sort themselves out, but often they only grow and become harder to deal with. 


Manager of Execution – Managers of Execution are the best of the Three Pillar types at holding people accountable. They are the most focused on results, and best organized. Their process is the most structured and methodical. They have an easy time setting goals, metrics, and milestones – it comes naturally to them.

  • They expect commitment and hard work from the people they’re delegating to. They take their responsibilities extremely seriously, and expect their people to do the same.

    The problem is that they can be so focused on driving for results that they can be insensitive to what people are experiencing and what may be in the way of their achieving results. They don’t really listen to the reasons why somebody may be struggling, or pay enough attention to internal barriers or motivation, they just want the job to get done.


  • They can be overly demanding and critical, only focusing on what’s lacking, what’s not being done – they give very little recognition for work well done, and very little praise.

    Like Visionaries, they are prone to micromanaging because they are worried about mistakes, and losing control, and are overly focused on the details.

    Rather than working collaboratively to create mutually acceptable goals, they tend to impose their goals. And they can be intimidating: they don’t create an environment that allows people to feel safe in sharing what they don’t know or that they are stuck.


  • They are often lacking in empathy and compassion.  And like Visionary Evangelists, they are strongly focused on doing it their way.

    In an “accountability conversation,” when performance is inadequate and results are lagging, the skill sets of Relationship Builders and Managers of Execution are most important.


Leaders need to be able to relate to employees in a non-threatening way to reach a resolution of problems, and at the same time to take a tough-enough line if a person has been lacking in motivation, effort, or application. 


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The founder who succeeded through force now needs to succeed through people. The founder who succeeded by being at the center now needs to build an organization that can function without everything going through them. That is where many founders get into trouble. They do not fail because they are unintelligent. They fail because they keep applying yesterday’s playbook with today’s authority. And when the results deteriorate, they rationalize. The market is confused. The team is weak. The investors are impatient. The customer does not get it. Maybe. But sometimes the real problem is simpler and more uncomfortable: The founder stopped learning. What Learning Agility Really Means Learning agility is not just being open-minded in theory. Plenty of leaders describe themselves as open-minded right up until someone disagrees with them. Learning agility is the capacity to absorb experience, update your assumptions quickly, and change your behavior without losing your center or your conviction. It means reality can still teach you. That sounds simple. It is not. Founders are often rewarded early for conviction, speed, intensity, and control. Those are useful traits when a company is fragile and every decision feels existential. But over time, the company changes. The job changes. The market changes. The team changes. The founder has to change too. Learning agility has several parts: Mental agility. The ability to think through complex problems and resist the gravitational pull of the first plausible answer. People agility. The ability to understand different kinds of people, read dynamics in real time, and adapt your approach. Change agility. A positive orientation toward novelty, uncertainty, and disruption rather than a defensive one. Results agility. The ability to deliver outcomes in first-time conditions where the old formulas do not apply. Self-awareness. The ability to perceive accurately how you are actually doing, not how you hope you are doing. That last one matters most. Because you cannot learn from experience if you cannot tell the truth about your own impact. Busyness Is Not Learning One of the great founder traps is confusing busyness with learning. You can be in a thousand new situations and learn nothing from any of them. You can raise money, hire executives, launch products, fight fires, open markets, lose customers, change strategy, and still not extract the lesson. That is not learning. That is motion with a calendar invite. Learning requires reflection. Not endless self-analysis. Not navel-gazing. Not journaling until everyone around you loses hope. Just disciplined reflection. After important events, decisions, conflicts, or surprises, ask yourself: What was I trying to accomplish? What actually happened? What is the gap? What does the gap suggest about my model of how things work? What will I do differently next time? Done weekly for a year, that practice alone can change a leader. Experience does not automatically make you wiser. Reflected experience does. How the Ego Turns Experience Into Repetition Here is where the problem gets deeper. The ego blocks learning agility at every stage, and it does so in ways most founders do not see coming. Start with the obvious. If you are identified with being right, feedback becomes a threat instead of data. You defend instead of inquire. You cherry-pick evidence that supports your existing view and discount what does not. The moment someone challenges your approach, your instinct is not curiosity. It is protection. But there is a deeper layer. Learning agility requires you to update your mental models quickly. That means letting go of the identity you built around the old model. Early success creates a story. “I am the visionary who sees what others miss.” “I am the decisive founder who trusts my gut.” “I am the one who knows what great looks like.” “I am the person who moves faster than everyone else.” That story may have been useful. It may even have been true. Until it wasn’t. When the market shifts and your gut starts failing, you now have a psychological problem, not just a business problem. Updating your strategy may feel like updating your identity. So you double down. You blame the team. You blame the market. You blame timing. You blame execution. Anything is easier than admitting that the operating system that got you here is now becoming a liability. The Insulation Problem As founders gain authority, they often lose access to reality. Employees defer more. They challenge less. They soften the truth. They try to read what the founder wants to hear. They nod. And once everyone is nodding, the founder may already be in trouble. This is what I call the insulation problem. The founder receives a curated version of what is actually happening, filtered through people who fear the founder’s reaction or want the founder’s approval. Meanwhile, the ego is getting reinforced constantly. You are the founder. You raised the money. You set the vision. You are in charge. The cruel irony is that self-awareness can regress during the exact period when the company most needs the founder to grow. The company is scaling. The role is changing. The stakes are higher. But the feedback loop is weaker. That is a dangerous combination. The Founder Derailers I See Most Often The specific derailers are painfully predictable. Founders who cannot tolerate ambiguity rush to certainty and then grip it. Founders who anchor on past success treat it as a blueprint for the future. Founders who are so action-oriented that they never reflect keep applying the same playbook and wondering why results are deteriorating. Founders who are loners by nature solve problems alone instead of drawing on the collective intelligence of the team. Founders who are overconfident genuinely believe they have less to learn than everyone else. Founders who treat disagreement as disloyalty train the organization to stop telling the truth. All of these are ego in motion. Each one protects an identity at the expense of learning. And each one makes the founder less adaptive right when the company most needs adaptation. What Agile Leaders Do Differently The best leaders remain connected to reality. That is not glamorous, but it is everything. They build practices that keep them humble about their own limits and curious about what is actually happening. They reflect consistently. Not quarterly at some beautifully facilitated offsite. Weekly. After real decisions. After real mistakes. After real surprises. They surround themselves with people who will challenge them. Not professional contrarians. Not cynics. Not people who enjoy being difficult. People whose judgment they trust and who feel safe enough to disagree. They stay close to the ground. The higher you rise, the more filtered the information becomes. Great leaders stay connected to customers, frontline reality, and the unpolished version of what is happening. They study outside their domain. A finance executive who studies design. A CEO who studies anthropology. A founder who reads about ecology, military strategy, or psychology. Cross-domain learning interrupts the default thinking of your primary field. And most importantly, they develop the capacity to observe their own mind. That is where meditation becomes practical. Not meditation as spa music for stressed executives. Meditation as observation. You sit quietly and watch the mind defend itself. You notice the urge to be right. You notice the fear of irrelevance. You notice the attachment to the old model. You notice the impatience that wants to skip the lesson and get back to action. That awareness creates space. And space is where adaptability lives. The Founder’s Real Test The old playbook does not announce that it has expired. It simply starts producing worse results. That is why founders have to keep learning before the evidence becomes humiliating. The founder who keeps learning can scale with the company. The founder who stops learning slowly becomes the constraint. Not because they lack intelligence. Not because they lack courage. Not because they lack work ethic. But because they are still running yesterday’s operating system in a company that now requires something more. Learning agility is not a nice-to-have leadership trait. It is the founder’s survival skill. The company will keep changing. The market will keep changing. The team will keep changing. The real question is whether the founder can change without feeling personally diminished by the need to change. That is the mark of a leader who can scale. Not the leader who is always right. The leader who can be corrected by reality and still stay strong. That is learning agility. And for founders, it may be the difference between building a company that grows and becoming the reason it stops. 
Ego Is the Silent Killer of Leadership
By Rich Hagberg May 9, 2026
After almost 50 years of coaching leaders, it’s time for me to be very honest about what I’ve seen. The ego has destroyed more leaders than incompetence ever did. That may sound harsh, but I have watched it happen too many times. Smart people. Talented people. Visionary founders. Hard-driving executives. People with charisma, intelligence, courage, ambition, and often a real desire to build something meaningful. Then success arrives. And success is where the ego really gets dangerous. When leaders are struggling, reality still has a vote. Customers complain. Investors push. Employees leave. The market humbles them. But once leaders gain power, money, status, and a circle of people who need something from them, reality gets quieter. People start editing the truth. They laugh at jokes that are not funny. They soften bad news. They call emotional reactivity “passion.” hey call micromanagement “high standards.” hey call arrogance “confidence.” They call avoidance “strategic patience.” And before long, the leader is no longer leading a company. They are leading a carefully managed psychological ecosystem designed to protect their self-image. That is when things get expensive. Ego Is Not Just Arrogance Most people think ego means arrogance. That is too simple. Ego is the mental picture you carry of who you are. Your role. Your competence. Your status. Your worth. Your story about what makes you special. It is not useless. Early in life, ego helps organize identity. It helps us function, strive, compete, and build. But here is the problem. The ego starts as a tool and quietly becomes the boss. At first, you use it to orient yourself. Later, you defend it like your life depends on it. If you are identified with being the smartest person in the room, disagreement feels like an attack. If you are identified with being the founder, criticism of the company feels like criticism of you. If you are identified with being decisive, uncertainty feels humiliating. If you are identified with control, delegation feels like loss. If you need admiration, honest feedback feels unbearable. And if you are identified with being a great leader, congratulations. You have just made it harder to become one. The Ego Is Always Looking for a Deal The hidden bargain beneath ego-driven leadership usually sounds like this: Uf I succeed enough, I will finally feel secure. If I am admired enough, I will finally feel worthy. If I control enough, I will finally feel safe. If I win enough, I will finally be beyond doubt. The problem is that the bargain never fully pays off. Achievement does not end the hunger. Often it intensifies it. The leader gets the title, the funding, the exit, the recognition, the keynote invitation, the glowing article, the larger house, the more impressive friends. And somehow the inner machinery keeps running. More proof. More control. More admiration. More winning. More reassurance. This is why some extremely successful leaders remain strangely restless, defensive, brittle, and dissatisfied. They have achieved enough to impress the world, but not enough to quiet the self they are trying to protect. That is not a moral failure. It is a psychological trap. And leadership gives that trap a very large stage. How Ego Distorts Leadership Here is the brutal part. The ego does not just make leaders annoying. It distorts judgment. When the ego feels threatened, the leader stops seeing clearly. They stop listening when challenged. They become rigid instead of adaptive. They surround themselves with people who agree with them. They take credit and avoid blame. They micromanage because they cannot trust others. They confuse being questioned with being disrespected. They interpret disagreement as disloyalty. They protect the image instead of examining the truth. The more power they have, the worse it gets. Not because power makes everyone corrupt, but because power reduces corrective feedback. People defer more. They challenge less. They wait to see what the leader wants to hear. The leader slowly loses contact with reality. This is the great danger of executive success. The external world starts confirming the internal illusion. The Founder Version Is Especially Dangerous Founders are particularly vulnerable because the company often begins as an extension of their identity. That is not all bad. In the early stages, a founder’s obsession can be essential. The company may need the founder’s force, conviction, stamina, and refusal to accept conventional limits. But what gets a company born can also keep it from growing up. When the founder is fused with the company, every problem becomes personal. A product critique feels like an insult. A senior hire’s independence feels like a threat. A board challenge feels like betrayal. Delegation feels like irrelevance. Operational discipline feels like bureaucracy. The founder says, “No one cares as much as I do.” That may be true. But sometimes what they really mean is, “No one validates my identity the way this company does.” That is a harder sentence to say out loud at a board meeting. The Great Leadership Question After all these years, I have become less interested in the surface behavior and more interested in the motive underneath it. Not just, “Why do you micromanage?” But: What are you trying to protect? Not just, “Why do you dominate meetings?” But: What happens inside you when someone else has the better idea? Not just, “Why do you avoid conflict?” But: What does disapproval threaten in you? Not just, “Why do you need to win?” But: Who would you be if you did not? That is where the work starts to get real. Most leaders do not change because someone gives them a better technique. They change when they see the hidden bargain they have been making with themselves. Self-Awareness Is Not Self-Absorption Some leaders resist this work because they think inner development is soft, indulgent, or irrelevant to results. That is nonsense. Self-awareness is not sitting around admiring your emotional complexity. It is the discipline of seeing what is actually driving you before it drives the company off the road. A leader who cannot observe their own defensiveness will call it conviction. A leader who cannot observe their fear will call it urgency. A leader who cannot observe their need for admiration will call it culture building. A leader who cannot observe their control needs will call it accountability. Self-awareness is not ornamental. It is operational. It determines whether you can hear bad news, accept feedback, delegate authority, admit mistakes, make clean decisions, and separate the mission from your own self-image. What Actually Helps When ego is running the show, insight alone is not enough. You can understand your patterns intellectually and still be captured by them under pressure. I have seen brilliant leaders explain their own dysfunction with great sophistication and then repeat it 20 minutes later. So the work has to become practical. First, notice the pattern in real time. When you feel defensive, name it silently. I am defending. I am trying to win. I am afraid of looking incompetent. I am trying to control the room. That small act creates space. You are no longer completely fused with the reaction. Second, use feedback as inquiry, not verdict. When someone gives you hard feedback, do not rush to decide whether it is accurate. Ask: What part of me feels threatened by this? What self-image am I defending? What might I see if I were not protecting myself? That shifts feedback from judgment to information. Third, meditate. Not because you need to become serene, spiritual, or annoyingly calm in a linen shirt. Meditation trains the basic leadership muscle most leaders lack: the ability to observe the mind without immediately obeying it. You notice the tightening in your chest when someone questions you. You notice the urge to defend before the other person has finished the sentence. You notice the story your mind creates to protect your image. In that noticing, there is freedom. Fourth, practice non-doing. This is radical for founders and high achievers. Sit for 10 minutes. Do not optimize. Do not plan. Do not solve. Do not check your phone. Do not turn stillness into a productivity hack. Just sit there and watch how uncomfortable it is to not be becoming something. That discomfort is data. It shows you how addicted the ego is to motion, improvement, fixing, proving, and control. The Real Shift The goal is not to kill the ego. Good luck with that. Also, you need a functioning self to lead. The goal is to stop being unconsciously governed by it. You can still be ambitious. You can still be decisive. You can still be competitive. You can still build something enormous. But your ambition does not have to be compulsive. Your confidence does not have to be fragile. Your leadership does not have to be a 24-hour defense system for your identity. That is when ego becomes something you can use rather than something that uses you. And that is when leadership matures. The deepest leadership question is not: How do I become more powerful? It is: What is my power serving? Because if your power is serving your ego, the company will eventually pay the bill. And so will you.
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